Urgent help
Urgent help
All this Christmas talk, is pushing me to the breaking point. All I hear all day long is party party party, relax, have a drink.
Theres no getting away from it all.
Got through tonight by the skin of my teeth, tomorrow I have family coming around and I am hanging on, but don't think I am going to make it.
Any help and advice is desperately needed. Leaving the situation is not an option.
I feel like 2 months is going up in flames. My AV is on steroids tonight and its all getting to me.
Theres no getting away from it all.
Got through tonight by the skin of my teeth, tomorrow I have family coming around and I am hanging on, but don't think I am going to make it.
Any help and advice is desperately needed. Leaving the situation is not an option.
I feel like 2 months is going up in flames. My AV is on steroids tonight and its all getting to me.
autan, don't be quitting on us now, we're not leaving any man behind this xmas!!
Your close family know your not drinking, right? that's the foundation, non alcoholic drinks all day long without the danger of someone offering you a drink, plus if it's in your own home YOU get to control the party! . . . YOU have free reign of the kitchen etc.
I'd say what helps me sometimes is get outside for fresh air when things get tough, regroup, breath deeply and then go back in.
You can do this!!
Your close family know your not drinking, right? that's the foundation, non alcoholic drinks all day long without the danger of someone offering you a drink, plus if it's in your own home YOU get to control the party! . . . YOU have free reign of the kitchen etc.
I'd say what helps me sometimes is get outside for fresh air when things get tough, regroup, breath deeply and then go back in.
You can do this!!
It will be tough, but you can do it. Situations like that are hard. Especially considering so many people in my life have been enablers.
I try to think of how much anxiety I will have tomorrow if I drink tonight...
I try to think of how much anxiety I will have tomorrow if I drink tonight...
Member
Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Gatineau, QC, CA
Posts: 5,100
And let's no forget how we felt on day1... I personally don't ever want to go trough this ever again.
Just relax, don't try to be the super hero when receiving people, just do your best and take time for you, mix yourself some nice, tasty, good looking sober drinks. Virgin Caesar, juices with Cranberry. Keep a sober drink in your hands at all times.
Just relax, don't try to be the super hero when receiving people, just do your best and take time for you, mix yourself some nice, tasty, good looking sober drinks. Virgin Caesar, juices with Cranberry. Keep a sober drink in your hands at all times.
Guest
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Sydney Australia
Posts: 4,225
Hi Autan. I had some crazy thoughts too in the lead up to Christmas Day.
Like others have said, some do it tougher than others....it's not necessarily going to be easy - BUT
It's just one day of many. Is all this sober time, all the positive choices you've made, worth it for one day when we 'think' we need to celebrate it with alcohol?
We've tried alcohol, we know it doesn't work for us. It's no way to celebrate for us. It would be sad, Autan.
Big hugs. It's Christmas lunch here in Australia. Christmas Eve was tough, but having a brilliant day. I hope you do too.
Hang in there.
Like others have said, some do it tougher than others....it's not necessarily going to be easy - BUT
It's just one day of many. Is all this sober time, all the positive choices you've made, worth it for one day when we 'think' we need to celebrate it with alcohol?
We've tried alcohol, we know it doesn't work for us. It's no way to celebrate for us. It would be sad, Autan.
Big hugs. It's Christmas lunch here in Australia. Christmas Eve was tough, but having a brilliant day. I hope you do too.
Hang in there.
((Autan))
Cravings will pass, tomorrow will pass . . . your sense of pride and accomplishment for exercising your sobriety muscles will empower you for a long time. Don't cave. Drinking is not an option. You can do this.
Keep checking in with us! Thinking of you!
Cravings will pass, tomorrow will pass . . . your sense of pride and accomplishment for exercising your sobriety muscles will empower you for a long time. Don't cave. Drinking is not an option. You can do this.
Keep checking in with us! Thinking of you!
Hang in there, Autan. Lot's of good advice so far on this thread. Also try to remember how much the AV romaticizes the first drink, it tells us how great it will be and all that. Then the second we take the drink, BAM, the AV abandons us. Where is the romance after the third drink, fourth. . .where is it when our head is pounding and we're hugging the toilet? You are strong and you want to be sober. ANd we want you sober too!
Do. Or do not. There is no try.
Good luck!!
I'm in the UK as well Autan and i hope you are having a lie in and getting up with a massive smile on your face because you don't have
the regret,
hangover,
what did i say,
what did i do,
i may as well drink today to feel better,
check my phone for any random people i offended
You know i could go on with that list!I honestly have the feeling that although you really had a bad night with it, you are waking up today sober free.
the regret,
hangover,
what did i say,
what did i do,
i may as well drink today to feel better,
check my phone for any random people i offended
You know i could go on with that list!I honestly have the feeling that although you really had a bad night with it, you are waking up today sober free.
You have the power autan
your AV has no arms or legs, it has no mouth ...it needs you as a willing collaborator.
It will throw everything it has at you to get you to cooperate - all you have to do is remember everything it says is a lie.
Drinking will add nothing to your Xmas - staying sober will add everything to your future.
D
your AV has no arms or legs, it has no mouth ...it needs you as a willing collaborator.
It will throw everything it has at you to get you to cooperate - all you have to do is remember everything it says is a lie.
Drinking will add nothing to your Xmas - staying sober will add everything to your future.
D
Autan I guess it's getting towards lunchtime for you, make sure you've got something nice for you. Have you got some nice sparkling water in the house? Half fill your glass with ice, then some wafer think slices of citrus, fill with sparkling water and then tell me that isn't festive. If you've got some berries in the house roll one in sugar then drop it in the top.
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)