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Old 12-20-2013, 01:11 PM
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Dee has a good point. Parties are for fun and right now you are not having fun but are struggling and if you pick up to join the crowd, it won't be fun tomorrow when you beat yourself up and have to start at day one again (that is if you don't just keep drinking).
Tell them you have to go (headache is a good excuse) and bail....make sure to get yourself a big slice of chocolate cake as a reward for being so good
and call your sponsor.

Oh shoot...just read your post about the boss.
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Old 12-20-2013, 01:15 PM
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C when would you feel comfortable enough to leave? I know it's lying but could you feign a migraine? Sometimes we have to do whatever is needed to get through these situations hugs xxx
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Old 12-20-2013, 01:19 PM
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Crash AVRT
You do not drink, you are a sober woman who is appreciated by her boss and just got a bonus.
Now your beast/disease/alcoholism wants to get blasted. That nagging little voice making you jealous is your addictive voice (your AV). It wants to drink but you do not drink. This is not you.
When that thought comes again, address it mentally and state:
I do not drink and this is not negotiable.
Separate you Charlie from the AV.

PS: and bail out asap
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Old 12-20-2013, 01:20 PM
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Old 12-20-2013, 01:28 PM
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I'd rather look rude than be miserable with that darn internal struggle Charliee - but it's your call

Hope it's over soon.

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Old 12-20-2013, 01:29 PM
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Every time that voice in your head says something about a drink just say back to it " No thank you, I don't drink".

You can do this and still have fun. Think about what you're going to spend that bonus on for example.
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Old 12-20-2013, 01:31 PM
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Well done for being strong and it really does get easier x
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Old 12-20-2013, 01:40 PM
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So someone just handed me a drink....
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Old 12-20-2013, 01:45 PM
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I said thank you, sat it down and walked away. Now I am going shopping. I made it through, thanks to all of you!!!
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Old 12-20-2013, 01:47 PM
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Huge well done honey now shop till you drop hugs xxxxxxx
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Old 12-20-2013, 01:54 PM
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I'm glad you got through that, Charliee.
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Old 12-20-2013, 02:03 PM
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I made it, but I still want a drink, just one! De stress,, feel normal, relax, etc.
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Old 12-20-2013, 02:05 PM
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Don't do it girl!!
What you just got through was HUGE!
Focus on how great you did and tell that AV to go to hell!!
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Old 12-20-2013, 02:07 PM
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I'm pretty sure you want some ice cream instead.
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Old 12-20-2013, 02:10 PM
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Don't let the AV win. You drink then one day if ever you will have to go through the path of giving up again.

Sober is cool. Let the sheep poison themselves.
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Old 12-20-2013, 02:13 PM
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Ice cream sounds awesome!
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Old 12-20-2013, 02:24 PM
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Thanks Dark, I have got this, two months until I have year. Everyone who responded saved me a little today! Thanks! You really don't know how much it means to have people behind you who understand. Even if I drank, I know you would be there for me.
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Old 12-20-2013, 02:33 PM
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10 months !!! That soooo deserves ice cream x
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Old 12-20-2013, 02:45 PM
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Charliee think it ALL the way to the blackouts,hangovers and misery. You don't need that drink. Hang in there girlie!!
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Old 12-20-2013, 03:57 PM
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I am so glad you did not drink. Enjoy that ice cream, you earned it girl.
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