Thoughtful2

Hello everyone
Do all alcoholics eventually use physical violence
I remember my boyfriend once shoved me with his leg when we were in bed.
He told me not to touch him because I didn't want sex when he had been drinking.
That was the only time and he was sorry for it. He would never hurt me otherwise
Don't worry I am away from him right now
Xx

Dee74

There's as many different kinds of alcoholics as there are personalities I think.

Although some are violent, I don't think it's inevitable that every alcoholic will 'progress' to being violent

what makes you ask?

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Impurrfect

I agree with Dee. My XABF#1 was never physically abusive, though he was quite emotionally/verbally abusive.

I'm both a recovering addict and have loved ones who are still actively using/drinking. I do my best not to be around anyone in active addiction.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

PurpleKnight

I agree, there is no link between violence and alcoholism!! . . . it depends on the person!

BillinSaratoga

Agree with Dee on this. Although new to admitting it, I am not a violent alcoholic. Actually get sleepy before getting violent. I have known some of my drinking buddies that get way more violent.

least

I became stupid and obnoxious, but never violent.

bigsombrero

I was a raging alcoholic and I never hurt a fly. Hurt myself pretty bad, though. I don't think there's any correlation. In fact, it could just as easily be the reverse: some people are very violent in nature, and that drives them to drink more. I'm sure there's some science behind it that I'm not qualified to answer...

Thoughtful2

Well at least my thoughts were right I could see that my boyfriend wouldn't physically harm me. I never meant to imply that all alcoholics were violent.
My father was a heavy drinker and he never hurt me either.
However my dad was verbally abusive.
Thanks guys

xx

Thoughtful2

I just hear opinions that most alcoholics will get violent eventually
I find it hard to believe of my boyfriend
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Thoughtful2

I just hear opinions that alcoholics get violent eventually
I didn't think my boyfriend was like that he didn't seem the type
He actually would hurt himself before me.

Thoughtful2

I think it depends on the person there is a stigma attached to alcoholism and physical abuse.
Verbal abuse yes because I saw my dad this way. Turned into emotional abuse.
xx

Thoughtful2

I just hear opinions that alcoholics get violent eventually
I didn't think my boyfriend was like that he didn't seem the type
He actually would hurt himself before me.

PurpleKnight

Verbal abuse can sometimes be worse than physical, my Dad cut right to the heart with some things he used to say to me, much more hurtful than anything he could do physically . . . and some of the things I still remember to this day!!

All the best to you Thoughtful!!

ForestRunner

I am a prosecutor and I see both alcoholism and DV on a near-daily basis. While the two often do go hand-in-hand, it is often one without the other. Depends on the person...

Anna

Who told you this?

I was never violent while drinking.

Something to remember is that when you take away the alcohol, the same person is still there.

Thoughtful2

Thanks Amy
Sweet cats

Blessings your way xx

silentrun

I became more and more angry but not more violent. Never to the point of wanting to shove someone.

Thoughtful2

That makes a lot of sense some people tend to judge without knowing
Xx

Thoughtful2

Yes he shoved me but to this day has never laid a finger on me.
Even being angry and abusive he us trying to control by just waking away

Many thanks xx

Thoughtful2

My dad too it hurt and I would apologise for saying things I never said or doing things I never did
It was humiliating to it got very bad one year where my dad blamed everyone fir not being happy about moving house
He drove the car made me sit in the front while he sped down a country lane. I was very scared and he was enjoying seeing me this way. I will never forget that.
best wishes purple knight x