You don't belong here!!!
A simple guy making his way
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Maine
Posts: 7,867
You don't belong here!!!
That's what I told myself everyday for a long time.... Months and months from when I first joined April 2012.
Why?
Because I failed time and again. I would sit reading through tears. I felt a fool. A loser. A liar. A fake.
Why?
Because I learned after a long string of failures that my addictive voice wanted me to think those things. Every time ... all the time that's what it told me.
But it's not true. Nothing could be further from the truth. I did belong. I was the very reason this site is here. Because I was learning. Coping. Forgiving. Releasing.
And I still am doing all those things and more.
And for you? You absolutely belong here drinking or not drinking.
No person wanting change is ever a fake. I had to learn I was just not as far along in recovery. And that's OK!
I bring this up because I see many times in general posts and in the weekend thread where people feel like they need to hide in shame. I get upset seeing those words. It's a natural feeling I know all about.
But please don't not post. Don't hide.
It took awhile for me to catch on that I got over things quicker and could stay sober longer when I spoke up. When I said it and let it go. Easier said than done but speak up first and then decide if you can't.
You and I and then next group of members to join all are the reasons to be here. No one excluded. Period.
Why?
Because I failed time and again. I would sit reading through tears. I felt a fool. A loser. A liar. A fake.
Why?
Because I learned after a long string of failures that my addictive voice wanted me to think those things. Every time ... all the time that's what it told me.
But it's not true. Nothing could be further from the truth. I did belong. I was the very reason this site is here. Because I was learning. Coping. Forgiving. Releasing.
And I still am doing all those things and more.
And for you? You absolutely belong here drinking or not drinking.
No person wanting change is ever a fake. I had to learn I was just not as far along in recovery. And that's OK!
I bring this up because I see many times in general posts and in the weekend thread where people feel like they need to hide in shame. I get upset seeing those words. It's a natural feeling I know all about.
But please don't not post. Don't hide.
It took awhile for me to catch on that I got over things quicker and could stay sober longer when I spoke up. When I said it and let it go. Easier said than done but speak up first and then decide if you can't.
You and I and then next group of members to join all are the reasons to be here. No one excluded. Period.
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: South Yorkshire U.K
Posts: 313
Great post Weasel1966, it pretty much sums me up. I've been lurking around the forum today after falling off the wagon again after a week. I didn't want to post - I feel like I've let people down. For now, the vicious circle continues as I start from scratch again.
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Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Earth
Posts: 1,791
I'm really not all that sure why people feel this way. I'm not going to help anyone fall, but I'll help you up no matter how many times you do, if you hold your hand out. I've fallen many times myself. 
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Location: Australia
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Thanks for the post Ken
SR is a great place to find help - it's the first place I'd turn to if I was in trouble.
Addiction loves to isolate us, or to prune us away from the group...I urge anyone who's left because they're ashamed, or guilty or whatever to come back and post - you'll be welcomed
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SR is a great place to find help - it's the first place I'd turn to if I was in trouble.
Addiction loves to isolate us, or to prune us away from the group...I urge anyone who's left because they're ashamed, or guilty or whatever to come back and post - you'll be welcomed
D
Keeping it simple!
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Surrey, BC
Posts: 3,282
Originally Posted by Weasel1966 
I bring this up because I see many times in general posts and in the weekend thread where people feel like they need to hide in shame. I get upset seeing those words. It's a natural feeling I know all about.
But please don't not post. Don't hide. .
But please don't not post. Don't hide. .
We have good times and bad times and posting about both really does help those that are starting out.
I would never want anyone to think that they can't post here if something happens. People will always be welcomed here with open arms, no matter what.
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