My Story - DaughterNeedsMe
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Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 5,937
Welcome to SR, and thanks for sharing your story, DaughterNeedsMe. I know it's difficult and very scary to finally admit you have a problem. But that's the beginning of fixing it! Many of us here (myself included) were in the same shape at one time, and many of us were able to turn it around. You can do it too, DaughterNeedsMe!
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Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: So.FL.
Posts: 119
Your story had me in tears, please spend alot of time reading and posting here, there are thousands of people here just like you, you are not alone. There is help available, and when you get it, the rewards will be greater than the effort, it aint easy but you will do it.
Today is your day one, its my day two, on my second go around. Im not going back to where I was, lets go foreward together.
Today is your day one, its my day two, on my second go around. Im not going back to where I was, lets go foreward together.
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Join Date: May 2013
Posts: 1,219
Welcome!
We have a lot in common. My daughter is 7 I quit when she was still 6 (almost 8 months ago). I always liked drinking, but became so filled with anxiety when she was born that I began drinking daily. Slowly progressed over 6 years from a couple glasses in the evening to drinking every morning a bit before work, then maybe a nip or two on my lunch hour, then a few more after work.
I also put my family's finances in dire straights...taking out high interest payday loans, also selling off things on EBay and in pawn shops:-(
I too was 100 pounds overweight!
Well, there us hope...I am 8 months sober, our finances are back on track with debts paid, I have lost 70 pounds, and am just so much happier and healthier now. I am not afraid to look in the mirror anymore...afraid if seeing the shell if a woman I had become, and afraid if seeing yellow eyes looking back!
You can do this...you are right, your daughter needs you, but you also need yourself back, and you deserve yourself back!
Hugs to you!
We have a lot in common. My daughter is 7 I quit when she was still 6 (almost 8 months ago). I always liked drinking, but became so filled with anxiety when she was born that I began drinking daily. Slowly progressed over 6 years from a couple glasses in the evening to drinking every morning a bit before work, then maybe a nip or two on my lunch hour, then a few more after work.
I also put my family's finances in dire straights...taking out high interest payday loans, also selling off things on EBay and in pawn shops:-(
I too was 100 pounds overweight!
Well, there us hope...I am 8 months sober, our finances are back on track with debts paid, I have lost 70 pounds, and am just so much happier and healthier now. I am not afraid to look in the mirror anymore...afraid if seeing the shell if a woman I had become, and afraid if seeing yellow eyes looking back!
You can do this...you are right, your daughter needs you, but you also need yourself back, and you deserve yourself back!
Hugs to you!
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 3,313
Hi DaughterNeedsMe,
I can relate to so much of what you posted. I have a 3 year old (almost 4 now) daughter and she is the reason I quit drinking and joined SR. I was so tired of either being drunk, hungover and irritable, or obsessed with thinking about my next drink. I don't want to miss these precious years. You can't get them back. I also his my drinking fom my husband and it is just so exhausting. My life has gotten so much better since I quit drinking. Yours will too
Stay close to SR and I recommend joining the December class. We have all been where you are and are here for you. Hugs to you xxxx
I can relate to so much of what you posted. I have a 3 year old (almost 4 now) daughter and she is the reason I quit drinking and joined SR. I was so tired of either being drunk, hungover and irritable, or obsessed with thinking about my next drink. I don't want to miss these precious years. You can't get them back. I also his my drinking fom my husband and it is just so exhausting. My life has gotten so much better since I quit drinking. Yours will too
Stay close to SR and I recommend joining the December class. We have all been where you are and are here for you. Hugs to you xxxx
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Join Date: Dec 2013
Location: Tennessee
Posts: 5
I made it through my first day. It became difficult around 3:30pm, but I pushed through and stayed busy. I didn't get much sleep last night (about 3hrs) and boy am I feeling it now! Whew! I've had a headache since last night, not sure if it's related or not.
I was able to get so much accomplished yesterday and woke up this morning feeling great and going 90mph. Unfortunately, that's not the case right now. I bet I would sleep until dinner time if I could!
I wasn't able to eat much yesterday. Every time I would feel hungry, I made me something to eat but was only able to take a few bites before feeling sick to my stomach. I guess that could explain the headache...? Hmmm.
I'm off to tackle day two today. I have LOTS of Christmas gifts to make and not much time to make them (thanks to always being drunk and pushing things off until the last minute). UGH!
Thank you all SO MUCH for your kind words! I hope everyone has a great day today!
I was able to get so much accomplished yesterday and woke up this morning feeling great and going 90mph. Unfortunately, that's not the case right now. I bet I would sleep until dinner time if I could!
I wasn't able to eat much yesterday. Every time I would feel hungry, I made me something to eat but was only able to take a few bites before feeling sick to my stomach. I guess that could explain the headache...? Hmmm.
I'm off to tackle day two today. I have LOTS of Christmas gifts to make and not much time to make them (thanks to always being drunk and pushing things off until the last minute). UGH!
Thank you all SO MUCH for your kind words! I hope everyone has a great day today!
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Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Posts: 1,443
I read through the whole post...and I also have been there.....I finally got sober (the first time) when my girls were about 4 and 6. Over the last 22 years, I have been sober for 15 of them....not perfect...but definitely progress....I am glad to report that I now have 63 days of sobriety....I am here for ME, my daughters (now 25 and 28) and have a great relationship with my husband. Hang in there...you can do this...for YOU...and for those you love!
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Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 11,417
Hi DNM;
I think it is wonderful you are doing this for yourself and your family.
I also had the paranoia, insomnia, lack of sleep when I first stopped.
I couldn't eat for days because of nausea. It will pass.
Get yourself a book to read if you can't sleep or keep a journal.
A nice walk around the block with your daughter morning and evening
will get your body moving and establish a gentle exercise routine.
When you can eat, try to put food that is very healthy in your body--
whole foods like eggs, veggies, chicken, fish, steak and drink lots of water.
You will most likely pee off some bloating soon and the scale will start to go down
between that and fact you aren't drinking so many calories, as you mentioned.
Herbal tea, herbal tea and soda water, juice and soda water, lime / lemon water are
good replacement drinks to keep "something in your hand" which I needed at first.
Keep posting and reading and know we all understand and have been there too
in various ways. Many of us have finally licked the demon drink and you can too.
You deserve it and you are taking the first steps now to a wonderful new life.
Do join the 24 hour thread and also the "December class" which has people who are quitting this month.
I think it is wonderful you are doing this for yourself and your family.
I also had the paranoia, insomnia, lack of sleep when I first stopped.
I couldn't eat for days because of nausea. It will pass.
Get yourself a book to read if you can't sleep or keep a journal.
A nice walk around the block with your daughter morning and evening
will get your body moving and establish a gentle exercise routine.
When you can eat, try to put food that is very healthy in your body--
whole foods like eggs, veggies, chicken, fish, steak and drink lots of water.
You will most likely pee off some bloating soon and the scale will start to go down
between that and fact you aren't drinking so many calories, as you mentioned.
Herbal tea, herbal tea and soda water, juice and soda water, lime / lemon water are
good replacement drinks to keep "something in your hand" which I needed at first.
Keep posting and reading and know we all understand and have been there too
in various ways. Many of us have finally licked the demon drink and you can too.
You deserve it and you are taking the first steps now to a wonderful new life.
Do join the 24 hour thread and also the "December class" which has people who are quitting this month.
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Join Date: Dec 2013
Location: Tennessee
Posts: 5
Day two has been conquered. I was able to go to bed by 1:30am last night and slept until 6:30. I got up and got everyone ready for work & school, then went back to bed at 9:30 and slept until 12:30 
Being up a little late last night helped me finish up a Christmas present I have been working on for two days. Woohoo!
I'm feeling good today (obviously, since I've slept most of it away). I have plans to make more Christmas gifts so I'm not doing it at the last minute like I usually do. Last year, my moms side of the family was so angry w/me on Christmas bc I was two hours late to our dinner and gift opening event. I was at home making the gifts bc I was too drunk & hung-over the other days of the year to make them (I was still hung-over making them that morning, too
).
Last Christmas eve I passed out drunk on the couch and my husband had to wrap all the kids gifts (three children) and put them under the tree on his own. I felt horrible about it the next day and he was NOT happy, obviously. Its going to be great to stay up with him, drink hot chocolate and wrap gifts. Its going to be even better to watch everyone open their gifts and not be hung-over wishing I was in bed.
I'm off to day three. I hope everyone has a great Thursday!
Being up a little late last night helped me finish up a Christmas present I have been working on for two days. Woohoo!I'm feeling good today (obviously, since I've slept most of it away). I have plans to make more Christmas gifts so I'm not doing it at the last minute like I usually do. Last year, my moms side of the family was so angry w/me on Christmas bc I was two hours late to our dinner and gift opening event. I was at home making the gifts bc I was too drunk & hung-over the other days of the year to make them (I was still hung-over making them that morning, too
).Last Christmas eve I passed out drunk on the couch and my husband had to wrap all the kids gifts (three children) and put them under the tree on his own. I felt horrible about it the next day and he was NOT happy, obviously. Its going to be great to stay up with him, drink hot chocolate and wrap gifts. Its going to be even better to watch everyone open their gifts and not be hung-over wishing I was in bed.
I'm off to day three. I hope everyone has a great Thursday!
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Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Upper Midwest
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Yee-HAW, DaughterNeedsMe!!! Keep it up. You are off to a great start. Stay busy. Have a plan ready for when you get an urge to drink. Keep posting to keep us advised as to your progress. We are pulling for you. Good luck. 
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Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: London
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You are doing brilliantly. I love your positivity, sounds like you are having a great time. It's the little things in life that are the best. I am easily pleased so it makes things that bit easier
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