A better way
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A better way
Hi,
I'm 31 y.o. and this weekend I had a rock bottom moment. I realized that although I'm not an alcoholic, not in the conventional sense of the word. Alcohol has claimed a part of me. Mostly my self respect. I lost control this weekend and I made choices that were foolish and immature. I hurt my parents and I hurt myself. I've decided to turn to a sober way of life because I feel it's the right choice for myself.
My boyfriend is also joining me on this journey because alcohol has claimed a part of our relationship. My battles will most likely involve him and whether or not he's as serious about this as I am. It's the right choice for us, I hope he honestly sees that.
But if he doesn't then it's his loss. I'm ready to be the person I want to be. And that's a sober, self-loving woman.
I'm 31 y.o. and this weekend I had a rock bottom moment. I realized that although I'm not an alcoholic, not in the conventional sense of the word. Alcohol has claimed a part of me. Mostly my self respect. I lost control this weekend and I made choices that were foolish and immature. I hurt my parents and I hurt myself. I've decided to turn to a sober way of life because I feel it's the right choice for myself.
My boyfriend is also joining me on this journey because alcohol has claimed a part of our relationship. My battles will most likely involve him and whether or not he's as serious about this as I am. It's the right choice for us, I hope he honestly sees that.
But if he doesn't then it's his loss. I'm ready to be the person I want to be. And that's a sober, self-loving woman.
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Join Date: Apr 2013
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Welcome to SR kaycee!
Jump on in. There is a lot of support and information here. We are all here to support each other.
I am curious, what is unconventional about your drinking?
I am an alcoholic and it claimed 26 years of my life. I am glad you are here seeking answers.
Jump on in. There is a lot of support and information here. We are all here to support each other.
I am curious, what is unconventional about your drinking?
I am an alcoholic and it claimed 26 years of my life. I am glad you are here seeking answers.
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Thank you GracieLou,
I guess I would never have considered myself to really have a problem. I wasn't a daily drinker and I never really thought it was an issue. I would have a beer here and there, enjoy cocktails, and just drink socially. Occasionally I would relax to some alcohol. Just nothing that really sent up any red flags for me. Not until recently. I realized I'm more of a binge drinker and with binge drinking comes impulsive behaviors, drinking and driving, arguments, juvenile behavior, and blacking out.
I just never thought it was much of a problem until it was. I still don't consider myself an alcoholic, but I realize I have a problem.
I guess I would never have considered myself to really have a problem. I wasn't a daily drinker and I never really thought it was an issue. I would have a beer here and there, enjoy cocktails, and just drink socially. Occasionally I would relax to some alcohol. Just nothing that really sent up any red flags for me. Not until recently. I realized I'm more of a binge drinker and with binge drinking comes impulsive behaviors, drinking and driving, arguments, juvenile behavior, and blacking out.
I just never thought it was much of a problem until it was. I still don't consider myself an alcoholic, but I realize I have a problem.
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Welcome to SR! To have a problem doesn't have to be the classical on the street drunk. Many here are high functioning.
It's how Alcohol changes you that can be an issue. For me at the end I was aggressive and disrespectful.
It's how Alcohol changes you that can be an issue. For me at the end I was aggressive and disrespectful.
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I couldn't agree more! That's why I'm here. Because I don't like who I am with alcohol and I feel at one point or another I'll need the support. I hope to get it from my boyfriend... but I don't know if he's as serious as I am. So I have to do this for myself.
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Join Date: Mar 2013
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Welcome kaycee28, if drinking is causing you problems then it's a wise choice to stop. I started out as binge drinker which escalated into daily drinking. There is lots of support here. Glad you have joined us. 
to SR! This is a very supportive site and I'm glad you've joined us. 
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Hi Kaycee,
Welcome!
Try not to worry about the label 'alcoholic' because it can be quite a stumbling block for people. It's not a label that most of us want. The main thing is to recognize that your life will be better without alcohol and to take action to make that happen.
Welcome!
Try not to worry about the label 'alcoholic' because it can be quite a stumbling block for people. It's not a label that most of us want. The main thing is to recognize that your life will be better without alcohol and to take action to make that happen.
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