I actually want to say I need help as weekend is here
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I actually want to say I need help as weekend is here
Hi
Im on day 6 of being sober and the 'pang' and need to drink has started. I knew the weekend would be a challenge. Ive had a very stressful day trying to help and be there for family problems.
Managed to handle the supermarket alcohol area but here I am and I'm not sure why I'm craving a drink.
Past the lane where 3 crates of fosters is for £20. That's 36 cans for £20!!!
Why is this happening. I feel like a junkie needing a fix. This is so wrong....right?
Im on day 6 of being sober and the 'pang' and need to drink has started. I knew the weekend would be a challenge. Ive had a very stressful day trying to help and be there for family problems.
Managed to handle the supermarket alcohol area but here I am and I'm not sure why I'm craving a drink.
Past the lane where 3 crates of fosters is for £20. That's 36 cans for £20!!!
Why is this happening. I feel like a junkie needing a fix. This is so wrong....right?
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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What you are feeling is that you have started to become too used to drinking...your body and mind expect you to grab those Fosters...don't do it. Change the routine...don't let it control you. Find something else enjoyable to do. Substitute the behavior with something else to take your mind off of it. Get through today and the next and the next and hopefully the craving will subside.
I can only speak for myself but you have to want to go forward with a clear head, don't let the booze control your ability to make solid decisions.
I hope I haven't stepped out of line with my suggestions. Only desire is to help with the attitude I took for myself.
I can only speak for myself but you have to want to go forward with a clear head, don't let the booze control your ability to make solid decisions.
I hope I haven't stepped out of line with my suggestions. Only desire is to help with the attitude I took for myself.
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Welcome Josafe. I don't have a lot of successful sober weekends under my belt, but I have committed to this one. I am looking forward to waking up tomorrow feeling good. All those beers are going to get you, at best, is hangover and regret. It will get easier...
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Congratulations on 6 days Josafe.
I have a couple of years now, but still remember those early days only too well!
I received a lot of support from my AA friends and sponsor and was given many suggestions which helped me through.
It does get easier, I promise!
It is just one day at a time. If you can get your head on the pillow tonight without a drink then whatever has happened, it has been a good day.
If you can, pick up the phone to another alcoholic. Talking about it takes the power out of it.
I was told to keep doing things, anything, even polish my shoes. Anything to stop me obsessing about the fact that I can't drink, want to drink, can't drink....
And the one that I hated the most! "This, too, shall pass".
It's true though. I hardly ever think of a drink now. I certainly have not been 'restored to sanity' as yet, but life is so much better it's unreal.
I wish you all the best, one day at a time
I have a couple of years now, but still remember those early days only too well!
I received a lot of support from my AA friends and sponsor and was given many suggestions which helped me through.
It does get easier, I promise!
It is just one day at a time. If you can get your head on the pillow tonight without a drink then whatever has happened, it has been a good day.
If you can, pick up the phone to another alcoholic. Talking about it takes the power out of it.
I was told to keep doing things, anything, even polish my shoes. Anything to stop me obsessing about the fact that I can't drink, want to drink, can't drink....
And the one that I hated the most! "This, too, shall pass".
It's true though. I hardly ever think of a drink now. I certainly have not been 'restored to sanity' as yet, but life is so much better it's unreal.
I wish you all the best, one day at a time
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Josafe, I'm glad you posted about your concerns. Can you make plans to be doing something different this weekend? Try to change your normal weekend routine and I think it will help.
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Hi thanks everyone. I just wanted reassurance that I am normal. That the pang I get is normal. I think if I can get through tonight I will be OK. I know Saturday will be a challenge.
It is a challenge as my friends only socialise in a pub or drinking places. I havent been in a place that sells alcohol other than a supermarket for 8 months. It's the being at home and isolated bit that had made my drinking worse.
I dont seem to have any friends who wanna visit me unless I visit them or in a place that sells alcohol. Mates either have funny shifts or lazy during the day. My facebook was all about where I should drink and whats girls wanted to meet for drinks. I closed my facebook down.
But here I am on my own again with me and my thoughts with no alcohol in the house.
Can you see why this is an extra struggle for me?
It is a challenge as my friends only socialise in a pub or drinking places. I havent been in a place that sells alcohol other than a supermarket for 8 months. It's the being at home and isolated bit that had made my drinking worse.
I dont seem to have any friends who wanna visit me unless I visit them or in a place that sells alcohol. Mates either have funny shifts or lazy during the day. My facebook was all about where I should drink and whats girls wanted to meet for drinks. I closed my facebook down.
But here I am on my own again with me and my thoughts with no alcohol in the house.
Can you see why this is an extra struggle for me?
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the weekends can be hard, that's true. but really they are just the same as any other day ending in Y. 
don't use the fact that it is a weekend to normalize drinking. it's a trap. and you can dodge the trap. just stay focussed and apply bloody-minded erserverance to the task at hand, and be kind to yourself.
don't use the fact that it is a weekend to normalize drinking. it's a trap. and you can dodge the trap. just stay focussed and apply bloody-minded erserverance to the task at hand, and be kind to yourself.
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Go to an AA meeting. Just go. You can complain about it or be anxious it about after you get back.
I haven't read in your comments that you have anything in place to defend against your taking the next drink, and your holding onto your vodka earlier in the week way past the moment you decided not to drink it is worrying.
No one here can stop you from picking up that next drink, no matter how helpful or supportive we are.
Don't think about who's going to be there, what people will think about you, or any kind of social anxiety you might have. In fact, don't think about anything that will stop you from going. The worst thing that can happen is that you learn something about getting sober and not picking up that next drink.
Just go.
I haven't read in your comments that you have anything in place to defend against your taking the next drink, and your holding onto your vodka earlier in the week way past the moment you decided not to drink it is worrying.
No one here can stop you from picking up that next drink, no matter how helpful or supportive we are.
Don't think about who's going to be there, what people will think about you, or any kind of social anxiety you might have. In fact, don't think about anything that will stop you from going. The worst thing that can happen is that you learn something about getting sober and not picking up that next drink.
Just go.
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You can do it. Fill your time with positive things: exercise, a walk in nature, read a book, bake or cook something, find an activity or group to join that doesn't involve alcohol...
Take care of yourself, you'll get thru it!
Take care of yourself, you'll get thru it!
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Hi again Josafe.
Yes I can definitely see why that would be a struggle for me. If I am left alone with my own thoughts for too long I still get myself in to trouble. I either beat myself up for being useless, or fall into self pity (Poor me, poor me, pour me a drink!).
For me it is vital I regularly phone or meet with other alcoholics so they can stop me going 'off beam'. This is especially true of my sponsor, who is not afraid to tell me what he sees! They think like me and can offer advice and support as well as telling me how it really is, rather than how I see it!
Its a disease of perspective this one! It will try any trick to get me back out there drinking. Negativity is always a winner at breaking down my defenses.
Not long back from an AA meeting tonight. Good to catch up with friends and have a laugh and a joke. Friday was always my blow-out night, kinda like 'welcome to the weekend'.
The weekends used to seem completely daunting when I first got sober. A BIG patch of time to fill with not drinking. However, I am glad to say, that too has passed!
Yes I can definitely see why that would be a struggle for me. If I am left alone with my own thoughts for too long I still get myself in to trouble. I either beat myself up for being useless, or fall into self pity (Poor me, poor me, pour me a drink!).
For me it is vital I regularly phone or meet with other alcoholics so they can stop me going 'off beam'. This is especially true of my sponsor, who is not afraid to tell me what he sees! They think like me and can offer advice and support as well as telling me how it really is, rather than how I see it!
Its a disease of perspective this one! It will try any trick to get me back out there drinking. Negativity is always a winner at breaking down my defenses.
Not long back from an AA meeting tonight. Good to catch up with friends and have a laugh and a joke. Friday was always my blow-out night, kinda like 'welcome to the weekend'.
The weekends used to seem completely daunting when I first got sober. A BIG patch of time to fill with not drinking. However, I am glad to say, that too has passed!
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Originally Posted by EndGameNYC 
Go to an AA meeting. Just go. You can complain about it or be anxious it about after you get back.
I haven't read in your comments that you have anything in place to defend against your taking the next drink, and your holding onto your vodka earlier in the week way past the moment you decided not to drink it is worrying.
No one here can stop you from picking up that next drink, no matter how helpful or supportive we are.
Don't think about who's going to be there, what people will think about you, or any kind of social anxiety you might have. In fact, don't think about anything that will stop you from going. The worst thing that can happen is that you learn something about getting sober and not picking up that next drink.
Just go.
I haven't read in your comments that you have anything in place to defend against your taking the next drink, and your holding onto your vodka earlier in the week way past the moment you decided not to drink it is worrying.
No one here can stop you from picking up that next drink, no matter how helpful or supportive we are.
Don't think about who's going to be there, what people will think about you, or any kind of social anxiety you might have. In fact, don't think about anything that will stop you from going. The worst thing that can happen is that you learn something about getting sober and not picking up that next drink.
Just go.
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