Is this playing it safe or isolating myself?
 

Some friends of mine are having jewelry party/Christmas and Ugly sweater parties on the upcoming weekends. I have been to a couple of Christmas functions already where there is alcohol and did fine. These jewelry parties are at houses and there will be drinking at them. Absolutely no part of me wants to attend either one of them, even though there are other things to do like buy things and have fun with our ugly sweaters. I am not sure if this is me trying to protect my sobriety or if this is me isolating myself. I am definitely starting to venture out now at 7 months sober but the thought of going to those parties make me very anxious. Any thoughts?

If no part of you wants to go, then don't go. It sounds like you are protecting your sobriety but I'm not you so can't really say. I know that if I felt that strongly about I simply would not go. :)

Sounds like you're playing it safe by not going.

Your sobriety is the most important thing, if you think that would be compromised in any way then that is your decision!!

I've asked that question myself before many times, and the next day I was not filled with regret for playing it safe or said,"Darn I sure wish I had gone to that event where I'd be triggered!" I think being in an environment rife with triggers is more isolating than playing it safe. :)

Sounds like you shouldnt go. You are playing it safe. You must know deep down there will be strong triggers.

Thank you all! I feel that I am now starting to put myself out there and be social but I also feel that I need to do what I feel is right. I appreciate all the feedback.

Sounds like your gut tells you to pass. I'd go with that feeling. Parties will be there next holiday season.

I agree with the others patty - you're still feeling a bit fragile, even at 7 mos. It's not worth the risk. There will come a time when you won't feel challenged by attending. I'm glad you're being cautious. :)

Don't go if you feel uncomfortable. You will be able to a bit further down the line.

No need to do something you don't feel right about.

Thank you SR family! Having your support makes me feel better about not going!!