Newbie just wants to say hello...
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Newbie just wants to say hello...
I have become the care giver to my alcoholic father, the famliy has giving up hope on him and tells me I should just let him drink himself to death, they don't seem to relize that G-d will not take you home untill it's your time, in the past 6 months my father has been on his death bed twice once in ICU 11 days on life support, and then another 9 days in ICU with enternal bleeding all due to his liter a day Corwn Royal habbit. I feel I have no one to turn to and little support from family or friends in dealing with the stress of being the care giver yet when it comes to certain issues everyone wants to have a say and the stress just breaks me at times. Dealing with my own addiction issues in the past at times the stress makes me think of just wanting to shut down in a drug induced haze even if only for a few hours, but in the end I reliaze I'm stronger than any addiction thanks to my faith in HaShem.
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Thanks for all the love, I hope to just find a few people who understand.
I have put my life on hold and even broke off a 3 year relationship with a great guy, who wanted me to move out of state with him, but felt my father was more important to me than any other relationship, even though my father loves to call me a worthless peice of crap....
I'm still trying to figure out why I picked the relationship with my father over the one with a warm and loving guy. The whole honor thy Mother and Father bit in the Torah has a hold of me. lol
Thanks again...
I have put my life on hold and even broke off a 3 year relationship with a great guy, who wanted me to move out of state with him, but felt my father was more important to me than any other relationship, even though my father loves to call me a worthless peice of crap....
I'm still trying to figure out why I picked the relationship with my father over the one with a warm and loving guy. The whole honor thy Mother and Father bit in the Torah has a hold of me. lol
Thanks again...
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Many communities have some form of home care available....I'm not in the US but I use one myself (I'm disabled) and their rates are generally very reasonable...
Would you consider using one of those even a couple of days or even mornings a week to give yourself a break?
It's a mammoth task being a full time carer.
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Would you consider using one of those even a couple of days or even mornings a week to give yourself a break?
It's a mammoth task being a full time carer.
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You can't help who you love my fiance once told me...very true. I believe your caring for your father will provide you with the ultimate insight as to why and how you may escape your own addictions going forward. Everything for a reason...best of luck to you...
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Welcome to SR you will find great support on anything you have to ask or just want to vent and get feedback. I have gotten a lot from here since joining.
It is not how you whether the " Storm "
It is how you " DANCE " in the rain
It is not how you whether the " Storm "
It is how you " DANCE " in the rain
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