cheeky1

Major major trigger for me is dealing with my kids.

suki44883

That's an excuse, not a trigger. You kids can't make you drink. If you drink, you are not safe to be taking care of your kids. Will it be easier to deal with your kids tomorrow when you're hung over? What will stop you from drinking then? Don't use your kids as an excuse to drink.

cheeky1

Thanks suki.

LindaLou

When my son got on my nerves, I would take a "time out". Not sure how old your kids are, but if they are old enough, lock yourself in the bathroom. Put some music on, light a candle, and soak in a bubble bath. Take some time just for you. You deserve it!

ScottFromWI

I drank when my kids got in my nerves. I also drank when my wife got on my nerves. I additionally drank when people at work got on my nerves. Or relatives...you get the point.

Turns out in every instance I was just drinking to get drunk and escape my responsibilities. And it never worked...they are always there when you sober up.

Anna

I hope you can get through this tonight and stay sober.

cheeky1

Thank you Anna, much much appreciated. I need encouragement, not a scolding :/

ZeldaFan

Don't drink! You can stay sober tonight! I don't have kids but I used everything as an excuse to drink and it got me nowhere. Just think of how good you will feel when you get into bed sober and ready for a hangover free morning!

peanutty

I actually think in the long run drinking can make my kid issues more irritating, not less. It might help in the moment, but it gives me a shorter overall fuse, KWIM?

MIRecovery

I have found that there is no problem a drink wont make worse

Indenial618

I can feel that way at times as well. But it's just an excuse for me to drink. Dealing with my kids hungover is far worse then locking myself in my room for a mommy time out. You got this! You'll feel great tomorrow when you get up and didn't drink!

waterboy68

As a father to 10 year old, 6 yr and 4 yr old, I know what you mean when your last nerve is shot and you just want it all to stop, but drinking only exacerbates the problem. I used to have a beer on the counter while bathing my youngest, just waiting for selfish "me time" to chill out. I was missing out on all of what raising kids is all about. Been there and done that, now glad to be on the right path. Just saying, I get it...

Brian316

I hear you, I have a lot of triggers myself. But not only can drinking make a bad problem worse, it sets us up for future problems that could be avoided by staying sober. Unfortunately I've had to learn this the hard way. Please don't drink!

AG2013

Cheeky just remember your not alone on this...its my biggest reason to start drinking too but I tell myself my sobriety is the most important thing. Kids are doing what they are meant to do...drive us freaking crazy! I have locked myself in my room for my own time outs many times. Drive them nuts with kindness..lol. Just dont drink!

Renarde

Once I got sober for an extended period, it became much easier to deal with the stresses of parenting. Hang in there because things will get easier!

SeaScape

Hang in there. They'll eventually grow up and leave to terrorize other people in this world

I feel for you. Kids, work, spouses - life is just stressful and difficult. Kids especially - they require so much care. I watched my mom raise three kids. She was a functional alcoholic. I don't know how she did it but she did. I love her and think the world of her.

Deckard

Kids are always learning.

I realized that my kids were learning major lessons from me on how to handle stress, and when I was drinking I was teaching them that booze was a great way to cope.

I no longer teach them this false lesson!

cheeky1

I made it through night 2! I had a bubble bath and ice cream and went to bed early. Disaster averted!

resolute50

Well done!!!

KateL

Great stuff. No one should scold you xxx