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Old 11-29-2013, 02:56 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Trying to keep my demons out of the festivities is trickier than I thought.


Hi All,

I've been completely sober since 11/19. When I say completely it's because that was the first day that I was free of all 3 of the substances that I love: alcohol (my first love), xanax (don't miss it at all) and vicodin/norco (miss it terribly). The withdrawals were pretty horrific.

It's easier during the work week than it is on weekends/holidays. Much, MUCH easier. I have work to keep me busy. I don't have much time to really crave anything. But weekends are so, so challenging.

I decided pretty early in my sobriety that I wasn't going to do the traditional Thanksgiving to help with my cravings. It didn't seem to matter. My family went to Disneyland (we are passholders) but even then, at the Happiest Place on Earth, I was craving alcohol (it was staple of our trips, even with the kids.. sad) and worse than that, vicodin. I didn't budge though and I still had a good time.

Fast forward to this morning, I wake up. The house is a mess. I have a pounding headache (something that has come with my sobriety on a daily basis). I text my husband who was in another area of the house to check with our friend to see if he has vicodin bc I have a headache. Usually the enabler, I was expecting him to say OK. And he writes back, take more advil. I'm not going to let you do this. I wrote back OK. I'm glad he didn't let me go there. But I'm sad that I was about to.

I hope this gets easier soon.

The holidays can't end quickly enough.
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Old 11-29-2013, 03:15 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Keep on Suekie ,

It get's easier

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Old 11-29-2013, 03:33 PM   #3 (permalink)
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It gets better, I promise. The longer you're clean and sober, the fewer cravings you'll have, til one day you'll hardly notice them at all.
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I had terrible headaches when I first quit. Worst than hangover-type headaches. Made me think, "I might as well drink if I'm going to feel like this."

Didn't drink, and glad I didn't because the headaches went away along with the other early recovery symptoms.

Stay strong.
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It really does get easier Suekie - I doubt many of us would still be in recovery if it didn't

Sorry about the headaches - I had them too - of course see your Dr if you're concerned, but otherwise....make sure you stay hydrated, and try and ease off the coffee if you're a caffeine fiend

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Old 11-29-2013, 04:16 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Sukie,

I used to dread holidays... too many hours thinking and thinking!
you need to find hobby for the weekend-holidays.
You must like something!!! to keep you busy!

the more occupied you are the better...
sports great, paint, knit, puzzles...
buy a notebook and write how you feel...

Get some help!
go to AA, Doctors, psychologist,...
read help books...AA, AVRT, urge surging...

Just hold on with time you will get better!!!
keep on with the good work, you are doing great!!!
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Good on your husband. He must know you really want to stop this time. Don't feel too bad about wanting that pill. You have wanted and received for so long, it is automatic.
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Old 11-29-2013, 05:23 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Thank you all for your kind words. I really need them today. I'm glad to hear the headaches are normal.. I was wondering what was going on with that. I can't wait til I "barely notice" my cravings...seems like a lifetime away.
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Weekends are tough for me too. I had some fairly long stretches of sobriety (3 1/2 years and most recently, a year and a half) and I did learn to fill my time without drinking. I even found that I enjoyed my time more when I wasn't impaired! It will get easier.

Good for you, and for your husband!
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Good job, Sukie. I agree, the weekends are tough. You are putting some serious work into your sobriety. It helps me so much to know that you guys are out there fighting the good fight too--keeps me going.
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