counting days vs. not counting days
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Originally Posted by resolute50 
Yes I do.
Why not? I also count down the days till the weekend.
That other thread was just a prime example of how excuses can be made to fall off the wagon.
Why not? I also count down the days till the weekend.
That other thread was just a prime example of how excuses can be made to fall off the wagon.
What a hot topic around here.
Here's the thread from this forum: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...r-relapse.html
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My answer to this question is not static.
When I am comfortable in my sobriety, I forget to count.
On some of the more difficult of days? I count like a MO-FO!
Day 345 here.
Here's to many days spent free of counting!
When I am comfortable in my sobriety, I forget to count.
On some of the more difficult of days? I count like a MO-FO!
Day 345 here.
Here's to many days spent free of counting!
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I'm not asking this question from the poot of view that one way is the right way. I just like to see how others approach it. I will probably count early on. I'm hoping though that I don't have to. That I can simply say that I'm not a drinker and that's that.
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Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: New Hampshire
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I originally posted about this the other day. I counted my days until I slipped at 1 day short of 5 weeks sober, now I don't count them, don't make a big deal out of how many have gone by. I had a shift in my mind and soul that this time is forever. Yes, some days are harder than others and I have to be thankful for being sober that very moment, that day.
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I counted at first as that was encouraged in the program I was part of. I found myself freaking out at 30,60, never made it to 90. And indeed relapsed at those points. I would say "darn...look how far I am" and freak out...what if I can't do this? I felt always tied to the shore of being an addict, trying to swim against the incoming tide...then I'd look back and swim back to familiar shore.
When I finally got sober for real, had that internal shift..I decided I was a non drinker. That was my reality. Days weren't an issue. I was no longer tied to that aspect of my past. Just like I don't count days since i graduated HS, or since my divorce. That number isn't important to me, the life I live today is.
Counting days messed with my mind.
others find just the opposite. Good news is it's super easy to do either!
When I finally got sober for real, had that internal shift..I decided I was a non drinker. That was my reality. Days weren't an issue. I was no longer tied to that aspect of my past. Just like I don't count days since i graduated HS, or since my divorce. That number isn't important to me, the life I live today is.
Counting days messed with my mind.
others find just the opposite. Good news is it's super easy to do either!
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I counted to just after a year, the novelty kinda fizzled out after that . At about the same time i last heard from the AV (good riddance i hope it don't come back) .
I deal with life daily, i have a calmness , happiness and a free and gentle take on the world now (mostly).
I hear some people say recovery is like onion skins and layers ,i don't feel that , to me it feels like a warm salty sea , keeping me afloat and i'm buoyed to sail distant waters unknown or unthought of by me ever before
Bonne voyage , m
I deal with life daily, i have a calmness , happiness and a free and gentle take on the world now (mostly).
I hear some people say recovery is like onion skins and layers ,i don't feel that , to me it feels like a warm salty sea , keeping me afloat and i'm buoyed to sail distant waters unknown or unthought of by me ever before
Bonne voyage , m
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I am not sure but the longer you get into sobriety I would think it becomes less of counting .I am sure they are aware, but that mechanism can change. I still count because it keeps me accountable but I am only 63 days in and I am starting less and less to think about counting days just looking forward to months and years. The main thing is if it helps you keep you accountable and most importantly keep you sober then do what works.
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