where do you see yourself in five years
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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where do you see yourself in five years
ive always struggled with this, as a recent (kinda) college graduate, i want to have a place of my own, nice car, blah blah but i just dont know how to get to that point i guess...
anyway
where do you guys see yourselves in 5 years?
anyway
where do you guys see yourselves in 5 years?
That bell or bike person
Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: london
Posts: 4,978
I think for me building regular habits is where it starts …
Not drinking is the No1 .. then things like brush my teeth , wash every day , keep myself clean , keep my clothes shoes and surroundings clean , wake up early and be all washed and dressed to meet the day by 7 or 8 am . be honest , pay my bills .
Then it's find work … do a good job , look for opportunity to learn and apply myself better .
Slowly , slowly things come together … I often find my ambitions too much and this makes me depressed or anxious , so i try not to invest too much emotionally into them and keep my focus on what i can do here and now, today, then maybe tomorrow, next week or TOPS next month to keep myself well or build a little something.
Bestwishes, m
Not drinking is the No1 .. then things like brush my teeth , wash every day , keep myself clean , keep my clothes shoes and surroundings clean , wake up early and be all washed and dressed to meet the day by 7 or 8 am . be honest , pay my bills .
Then it's find work … do a good job , look for opportunity to learn and apply myself better .
Slowly , slowly things come together … I often find my ambitions too much and this makes me depressed or anxious , so i try not to invest too much emotionally into them and keep my focus on what i can do here and now, today, then maybe tomorrow, next week or TOPS next month to keep myself well or build a little something.
Bestwishes, m
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Originally Posted by thatslife 
.. if you dont have a plan nothing will work out
But, I agree, it's better to have a plan. The handful of goals you listed are financial goals. I am a financial advisor, and I can tell you that MOST people have no idea how to make a plan. I'll give you the condensed version of my 'how to get started' speech...
You are going on a journey. In order to plan for that journey you need to know two very important things:
1. Where you are now
2. Where you are going
There are 2 parts to where you are now.
a. net worth= [(everything you have) - ( everything you owe)]
b. cash flows = [(everything you earn) - (everything you spend)]
Where you are going could have LOTS of parts (house, car, travel, retirement, college, boat, charitable giving, legacy, etc.). It's up to you to determine.
Write it all down - where you are now and where you are going. BE SPECIFIC! Things become clearer once you do.
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Norfolk, VA
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There are a lot of books, seminars, training, etc to help people set and meet their goals. Stephen Covey is one I'm familar with. There are others. Most entail identifying your values, what is important to you, then coming up with goals that align with those values.
You may not be aware of it, but as an addict you've already been doing it. I know that when my most important goal was getting and staying high, I succeeded at it. I devoted my time, money, energy, etc to meeting my goal.
I recovered the same way, making my sober journey the most important thing in my life. Not lip service, but truly the number one goal.
If you identify your goals, and they are aligned with your values, and you truly want it, you'll achive it.
You may not be aware of it, but as an addict you've already been doing it. I know that when my most important goal was getting and staying high, I succeeded at it. I devoted my time, money, energy, etc to meeting my goal.
I recovered the same way, making my sober journey the most important thing in my life. Not lip service, but truly the number one goal.
If you identify your goals, and they are aligned with your values, and you truly want it, you'll achive it.
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Posts: 130
Try things you've never tried before. Maybe you might find a new direction. It sounds like you are confused in what direction to go. I sometimes find my direction by getting lost. Just food for thought. I see myself starting a new business, going to the beach, traveling, trying things I thought I never would, finding love, helping the community, and whatever else life has for me. Bring it on....! Money just buys things. True success is free, is from within your brain.
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Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: My city of ruins...
Posts: 593
Sober. By the grace of God and my recovery program I'm confident about that.
Out of the rat race. At the ripe old age of 45ish.
Following my passions in work wherever they take me.
Caring for my senior citizen doggies who will both be 11 by then.
Living a simplified and minimal life vs. chaotic and cluttered with stuff.
Happy. Finally. After all these years
That's the plan anyway
Out of the rat race. At the ripe old age of 45ish.
Following my passions in work wherever they take me.
Caring for my senior citizen doggies who will both be 11 by then.
Living a simplified and minimal life vs. chaotic and cluttered with stuff.
Happy. Finally. After all these years
That's the plan anyway
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Chicago
Posts: 88
This planning thing is what made me an alcoholic, I think. :-)
I have been sober for 7 months. I carry a 24 hour coin in my pocket all the time now. My group wanted me to have a 6 month coin, but I refused. I think the only thing that matters is the next 24 hours and doing the next right thing.
I really do not think that you can plan 5 years out. The best you can do is vague stuff anyway. The one thing I had to really get into my thick skull is that I HAVE NO CONTROL OVER MY LIFE. I have control over what I do, but not the results. It still has not totally sunk in, but it is getting there gradually. I mean for stuff to happen in your life in the next 5 years, whole bunch of other people have to do a whole bunch of things. To think that I can control that? No chance.
The best I can hope for is that I am still sober 5 years from now. I am reconciled with my family. I am a contributing member to society.
I have been sober for 7 months. I carry a 24 hour coin in my pocket all the time now. My group wanted me to have a 6 month coin, but I refused. I think the only thing that matters is the next 24 hours and doing the next right thing.
I really do not think that you can plan 5 years out. The best you can do is vague stuff anyway. The one thing I had to really get into my thick skull is that I HAVE NO CONTROL OVER MY LIFE. I have control over what I do, but not the results. It still has not totally sunk in, but it is getting there gradually. I mean for stuff to happen in your life in the next 5 years, whole bunch of other people have to do a whole bunch of things. To think that I can control that? No chance.
The best I can hope for is that I am still sober 5 years from now. I am reconciled with my family. I am a contributing member to society.
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