163 Days and weathering divorce
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163 Days and weathering divorce
163 days sober today! Been married almost 10 years. I had a problem in the past with my wife's infidelity, after therapy and some structure things have been ok for about 2 years. Lately I have caught my wife breaking some of those limits set in therapy (personal relationships with men I don't know, lying about where she is). I confronted her and she is asking for a divorce. The point here is not about my marriage, the point is that I am not grabbing a drink. In the past when this stuff would happen I would get pulled down by it all and within an hour started looking for comfort in booze, which would make it worse in the long run. I have noticed that being 163 days clear of booze, I can handle this disaster with a certain amount of calm that I would never have had. Don't get me wrong,it still sticks. We have a 9 year old, and I have been trying to avoid the whole divorce thing for her sake. Stay clear of booze guys, it only makes the bad worse and saps your strength, I speak from experience.
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Hi wizard, I am sorry that you are going thru a difficult time. But good for you that you recognize the damage that alcohol could cause at a time like this. You can deal with things so much better sober than you can drunk. Congratulations on 163 days! 
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You deserve a lot of credit man. Very well done. I wish I could praise you more, but I wouldn't want to beat a dead horse. From the rooms and the boards, I hear that deaths and breakups are probably the two biggest reasons for relapse. For some reason I'm getting a lot of anxiety just leaving the house to go run some errands today. What's been crossing my mind A LOT in the past 2 hours is to take some sort of benzo, and go and do my business. I understand that some people are prescribed benzos from their doctors because of medical reasons. For me, I might be prescribed them, but I abuse them too. Anyways, I don't want ramble on, but hearing your situation has put my situation in perspective. Thanks, and I hope that you continue to keep the same mentality as your situation moves on.
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