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Old 10-28-2013, 06:19 AM
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Want day one back

I've been here a while, I feel selfish to be honest but I don't want to over think this right now, I just want to get day one back under my belt.

I tend to drink, somehow 'commit' to a month long bender, and guilt tells me not to come here.

Always miss being here. See you tomorrow.
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Old 10-28-2013, 06:31 AM
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Hi Kys What's been happening?
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Old 10-28-2013, 06:34 AM
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Old 10-28-2013, 06:36 AM
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If what you're doing keeps failing maybe it is time to try something new. There are a ton of resources on this site but none of them work if you don't use them. What is your plan to give up drinking once and for all?
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Old 10-28-2013, 08:59 AM
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Welcome back! What are you going to do differently this time to stay sober?
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Please keep coming back. Don't let guilt prevent you from coming back because it's great first step to getting well.
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Old 10-28-2013, 09:10 AM
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If what you're doing keeps failing maybe it is time to try something new. There are a ton of resources on this site but none of them work if you don't use them. What is your plan to give up drinking once and for all?
Amen! We don't get sober by wishing.
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Old 10-28-2013, 09:15 AM
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Let us know how we can help Kys. It doesn't have to be this way if you don't want it to be. If you choose to be sober you can, and SR can help.
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Old 10-28-2013, 10:52 AM
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Hello friend

I've had that feeling , that's all AV . Of course the your addict voice don't want to get help.

You keep posting

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Old 10-28-2013, 10:59 AM
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Why put off till tomorrow what you can do today?
Here is the link to the 24 hours club,
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Old 10-28-2013, 01:22 PM
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Some great advice here. Good to see you Kys

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Old 10-28-2013, 01:25 PM
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Old 10-28-2013, 02:22 PM
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Welcome back Kys. You can do this - and when you do you'll feel so free

I read somewhere that the pain of discipline is never as strong as the pain of regret
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Old 10-28-2013, 02:58 PM
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welcome back kys.It took me many times and several failed attempts on SR before I did quit.Never be afraid to come back here.
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Old 10-28-2013, 02:58 PM
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There is always guilt/shame - we put ourselves through; not anyone else.
I recently slipped after having almost 50 days. But the program I'm using must be doing something because I went right back on my program and give it credit for keeping me sober more consecutive days ever. Still back to day 2 for me. I'm glad ou came back - learn from it - what will you do/don't do differently?
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Old 10-29-2013, 03:44 AM
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Thanks guys, nice hearing from you.

Changes...

I need to manage my job much better than I am and not take work home on a regular basis. It's a huge trigger, I tend to get buried in all I have on and often resign to thinking I can knock off all my work in one night and power through it all with a few drinks, since I have to work at home. Has never happened and I rarely get anything done but again the bigger picture to all of that is that I'd manage my job better if I wasn't so tired and hungover all the time, and so bringing home wouldn't be necessary (no one else brings work home really).

I need to commit to the fact I'll have to move on in life. I stay in a comfortable 'rut' and use alcohol for 'one more night' of self loathing, and tell myself I'll start fresh tomorrow. One more night turns into weeks, months etc.

And maybe a weird one but when I'm full and had a hearty dinner my cravings dramatically decrease.


I drank five beers tonight, came here after dinner and then tipped the rest of the booze. Laying in bed. Slight win, maybe, but I don't need alcohol at all.
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Old 10-29-2013, 03:49 AM
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Change is key Kys.
Without change you just have more of the same...

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Old 10-29-2013, 09:02 AM
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I know it sounds corny but it is also very true: Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Why not start it by committing to be clean and sober for the next 24 hours?
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Old 10-30-2013, 04:47 AM
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I did it, thanks everyone

Can't say it wasn't tough. I really need it get out of my head, I manage this whole thing in my head really.

Looking forward to tomorrow I need to focus on being mindful. I've dealt with some anxiety in the past, I think it will work well to leverage from some of the lessons from that, similar to urge surfing and not having to just give in to thoughts all of a sudden.

PS - I've joined Carlotta
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Old 11-05-2013, 10:50 PM
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Stop trying to think yourself sober Kys! Our thinking is the problem.

Take suggestions and take action! you can do this!
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