I don't know if I can do this anymore
I don't know if I can do this anymore 
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Originally Posted by jlp02005 
I'm at the end of my rope. I just need to be around people who are in the same situation for support.
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Welcome, there is a lot of support from here from many, many great people in a variety of areas (alcoholism, substance abuse, living with an alcoholic or addict, and more). Let us know what is up and we will be glad to help.
If you are looking for face-to-face support, there are many folks here who can give you information on that as well.
If you are looking for face-to-face support, there are many folks here who can give you information on that as well.
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Welcome and it is great that you have reached out.
At the end I was totally and utterly alone. In AA I found a group of people who understood what it was like to be me. I now have more true friends that I can keep track of.
I could not see at the beginning how things could get better but they did. There is a new and wonderful life out there for me in sobriety
At the end I was totally and utterly alone. In AA I found a group of people who understood what it was like to be me. I now have more true friends that I can keep track of.
I could not see at the beginning how things could get better but they did. There is a new and wonderful life out there for me in sobriety
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Originally Posted by jlp02005
I'm at the end of my rope. I just need to be around people who are in the same situation for support.
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Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Tennessee
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Originally Posted by jlp02005
I'm at the end of my rope. I just need to be around people who are in the same situation for support.
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Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Tennessee
Posts: 24
The emotional alienation, met with accusations of being "high maintenance" when I ask for some attention or acknowledgement of my own existence. I don't know. I DO know I have lost myself...and his controlling ways have made me a virtual prisoner of my own home. All activity shared or otherwise, revolves around his drinking. I cant live like this.
The Kid
Join Date: Oct 2013
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Have you tried to mention how much of a strain it's putting on the relationship? That may be a stupid question but I think if you lay it out, he might take notice 
When I wanted to communicate things with my girlfriend I found that writing a letter worked best.
Just know that when you feel in over your head someone is here
When I wanted to communicate things with my girlfriend I found that writing a letter worked best.Just know that when you feel in over your head someone is here
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Join Date: Oct 2013
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oh yes. met with an emphatic "hes not going to quit". he abandoned me duringmy chemo and radiation...so he showed then that the relationship is of little value to him...although his words are different...but the words are empty. I know my only recourse is to leave, which I will ultimately do. I am just disabled during my recovery, at the moment....and just trying to hold on....but it's hard when youre asking yourself why you fought for life so hard to settle for emotional vacancy and indifference.
The Kid
Join Date: Oct 2013
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I wish you all the best with your recovery you can hold on though jlp02005, you've been so strong so far. It sounds like you have a lot to deal with besides your husband, I suggest you take a look around the forums about dealing with an alcoholic family member.
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Here is the link for that board, you should make a post there and have a look at the stickies, they are full of useful information I think would be of value to you.
Best wishes
-ENC
you can hold on though jlp02005, you've been so strong so far. It sounds like you have a lot to deal with besides your husband, I suggest you take a look around the forums about dealing with an alcoholic family member.Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Here is the link for that board, you should make a post there and have a look at the stickies, they are full of useful information I think would be of value to you.
Best wishes
-ENC
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