I can never have another drink again
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I can never have another drink again
Hi Everyone,
I have been lurking here for about a week. Today will be my (Day 1).
I have to abstain from all alcohol. Last attempt to quit 6 days free, but then I convinced myself I wasnt an alcoholic and just had 1 drink.
Woke up in the morning feeling pretty down about it all and told myself, I was punishing myself for no reason and went back drinking again.
A month has passed from that day to this and I have been drinking back to my old ways. Its clear to me, I have no problem not drinking, its the staying not drinking, I need to work on.
The only way is not have any alcohol at all.
Great forum and some truly inspirational contributors.
I have been lurking here for about a week. Today will be my (Day 1).
I have to abstain from all alcohol. Last attempt to quit 6 days free, but then I convinced myself I wasnt an alcoholic and just had 1 drink.
Woke up in the morning feeling pretty down about it all and told myself, I was punishing myself for no reason and went back drinking again.
A month has passed from that day to this and I have been drinking back to my old ways. Its clear to me, I have no problem not drinking, its the staying not drinking, I need to work on.
The only way is not have any alcohol at all.
Great forum and some truly inspirational contributors.
to SR! You'll find a lot of support here. I'm glad you joined us. 
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Join Date: Oct 2013
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I understand what you're going through. A year ago, I had a week or even two weeks sometimes, every few months. I'm coming up 9 months now. Time is irrelevant beyond the first few weeks, IMO. But, it at least allows some of us to see it's possible.
Inevitably I'd find reason & succumb to drink. And because nothing was different, sans alcohol - re-introducing it only seemed natural. The only advice I can offer, which I was reluctant to accept until this time getting sober, was that something had to be different besides removing alcohol. And to be PATIENT. So, whether it's adding a workout routine, or joining a tantra meet-up, or taking salsa lessons, or volunteering, or AA, or SMART, you must replace the alcohol with something positive. And treat yourself too. Candy, filet mignon, whatever.
First day, week, month - sucks. Get medical attention if you need it. I certainly had to (in-patient detox for the 16th time last Jan). But you'll get past it, before you know it. PM me if you want. I have found expressing myself to others to be highly valuable.
Coffee tends to make my replies kind of long.
Inevitably I'd find reason & succumb to drink. And because nothing was different, sans alcohol - re-introducing it only seemed natural. The only advice I can offer, which I was reluctant to accept until this time getting sober, was that something had to be different besides removing alcohol. And to be PATIENT. So, whether it's adding a workout routine, or joining a tantra meet-up, or taking salsa lessons, or volunteering, or AA, or SMART, you must replace the alcohol with something positive. And treat yourself too. Candy, filet mignon, whatever.
First day, week, month - sucks. Get medical attention if you need it. I certainly had to (in-patient detox for the 16th time last Jan). But you'll get past it, before you know it. PM me if you want. I have found expressing myself to others to be highly valuable.
Coffee tends to make my replies kind of long.
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Or, "I don't need to have a drink today".
I'm into my 4th month, and I won't deny it's a struggle, but I'm learning to respect myself and my body.
I have determined that no matter how uncomfortable the journey, I have to follow it, and there will be good and not so good things along the way. But it is so worth it!
Good luck and stay strong, your body is a precious vessel that deserves good care!
I'm sure you'll find this community very helpful.
I'm into my 4th month, and I won't deny it's a struggle, but I'm learning to respect myself and my body.
I have determined that no matter how uncomfortable the journey, I have to follow it, and there will be good and not so good things along the way. But it is so worth it!
Good luck and stay strong, your body is a precious vessel that deserves good care!
I'm sure you'll find this community very helpful.
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Join Date: Aug 2013
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Welcome, jtlautner 
You've made a great start in posting here
I've found it much easier to refuse that first drink than I ever thought it could be - which is just as well as there's no way on earth I could refuse a second! I'm now coming up to 9 months and feeling good
Keep with it, it's so worth while!
You've made a great start in posting here I've found it much easier to refuse that first drink than I ever thought it could be - which is just as well as there's no way on earth I could refuse a second! I'm now coming up to 9 months and feeling good
Keep with it, it's so worth while!
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Join Date: Apr 2013
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I made that same decision 6 months ago. I didn't think I meant it but am writing you today so happy with my decision. I tried to quit drinking for 17 years and wish I would have done it sooner. My life is SO much better sober. It wasn't an immediate change. It has and is taking time and effort but wow is it rewarding!
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Very glad to meet you jt! I hope you'll find the encouragement & support will help you on your journey. It meant the world to me to no longer be alone with the struggle.
You're so right - it's the staying not drinking that's the challenge. I was content the times I didn't drink, so I don't understand why I kept picking up. What was I looking for - why did I think things would be enhanced by getting numb? It's so good to be free of it.
You're so right - it's the staying not drinking that's the challenge. I was content the times I didn't drink, so I don't understand why I kept picking up. What was I looking for - why did I think things would be enhanced by getting numb? It's so good to be free of it.
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