Bee250

Hi. I am hoping someone will be able to shed some light on my situation. I have been in a relationship with a man that I really care about. He has been sober for 20 years. I am very proud of his commitment to AA and his sobriety. My problem is this - we recently had a very big fight over something very trivial and insignificant. He typically shuts down and refuses to talk about anything unpleasant. I tried to get him to talk but was not successful. I've tried to get him to communicate with me so I can move on and maybe learn from this experience. I have told him how I would like to work things out but he doesn't want to -- totally cool, I understand. I want to move on but he will text me or see me out and tell me he wants to talk and will even set a date to talk but then never calls. It drives me crazy because I love him and he knows it. I don't get it. Is there something in the personality of an alcoholic that encourages this type of behavior. Has anyone else had a similar issue?

Anna

I have no idea why he is behaving this way.

It sounds like it's time for you to move on with your life.

Mentium

Sounds like a personal problem, not an alcoholic one. Alcoholics are as different as ...ordinary people.

least

Sounds like he's not sure what he wants. Or is afraid of commitment maybe. I'd give him his own space and see what he does.

colagirl

Sounds kind of like he's playing games with you. I don't think it's an alcoholic problem, but I would probably stop responding to him if that's the way he's treating you.