Help my Dad
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Raider, I cried too when I made the decision to quit. I was scared to death what might happen! I was literally frozen! Quitting drinking is a HUGE life changing event. I wanted to put it off too--had every excuse in the world. But my daughter told me that if I keep delaying quitting, the chances of me quitting grow slimmer and slimmer with every passing day. And with every passing day, as long as I continued to drink, the more I was damaging my body and increasing my chances of dying from this terrible disease. I knew she was right. So I sucked it up, prayed to God, made a plan and quit. It wasn't nearly as bad or scary as I thought it would be. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!
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Glad to hear that freebird because right now my stomach is in knots. My Dad made this delay in recovery evaporate. It's so weird because we (parents) never talked about my issue. I was so defensive I would not let them talk to me. Now we can talk. It is quite liberating to know they are with me.
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Hugs to you
Hi Raider, I've followed your story. I feel deeply for you.
I, unfortunately, have a strained relationship with my dad. So when I hear of your close, loving connection with yours, I assume you can be honest and tell him you need to address this serious issue with your drinking. He will understand. You are priceless to him and he wants you to get better. (((((Hugs)))))
I, unfortunately, have a strained relationship with my dad. So when I hear of your close, loving connection with yours, I assume you can be honest and tell him you need to address this serious issue with your drinking. He will understand. You are priceless to him and he wants you to get better. (((((Hugs)))))
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Dear Raider, You truly are blessed!! Your father is so strong and so wise. I've been thinking about you and you're situation all day...just a thought, would it be possible to start your rehab at the same facility your Aunt is in? You didn't mention, or I missed it, is where your Aunt is spending her last days on earth at? Home, hospital, hospice? Some hospitals have detox units and medical units. Maybe you could look into seeing if rehab can be started there, you would still be in the same facility as your beloved Aunt and getting the detox/rehab you so desperately desire. Your dad could spend time with both you gals. If death becomes imminent I'm pretty sure that they would allow you a pass even daily, (perhaps with an escort?)to help you grieve or say goodbye to your Aunt. Just a thought...when someone like the Dr. says death will be soon, what does that mean, 2 days or 20 days? Bless you and your family Raider. I will pray for you, your Aunt will soon be with her Heavenly Father, no more pain/suffering. Take care of yourself, eat, rest, drink tons of water. Keep your other (SR) family posted because we care, we are family after all, right? TF
. May she rest in peace and may you and your family have peace and comfort in your memories of her.
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Sorry, must have been on the bottom of the wrong page. I just see that she has passed and I am worry. But be strong, you let your dad know and you need to follow through on your plan. It would be easy to let this derail you. You have made such progress tonight and your so close.
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Oh, Raider! I am so very sorry for your loss and your dad's loss. Now, more than ever, you need to make recovery your priority--not only for your sake, but your parents.
I never discussed my alcoholism with my mom either. But she knew. She told me after I quit drinking how annoying I was on the phone and how proud she is of me quitting drinking. She was very worried about my health.
I never discussed my alcoholism with my mom either. But she knew. She told me after I quit drinking how annoying I was on the phone and how proud she is of me quitting drinking. She was very worried about my health.
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I am sure if your Father knew the pain drinking is causing you, he would want you to go to rehab straight away
I don't have anything else to add except I wish you all the best. Good luck in whatever decision you make.
I don't have anything else to add except I wish you all the best. Good luck in whatever decision you make.
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