Another lie...another day...Day 1...again..
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Originally Posted by kadidee 
MN, maybe going to the hospital would be the best thing. You could be completely honest about your drinking and ask for support about detoxes and rehabs. I racked up some hospital bills a few years ago for a drinking-related incident and got put on a reasonable payment plan. Don't let the money thought stop you. This could be the best decision you ever make.
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Originally Posted by kadidee
MN, maybe going to the hospital would be the best thing. You could be completely honest about your drinking and ask for support about detoxes and rehabs. I racked up some hospital bills a few years ago for a drinking-related incident and got put on a reasonable payment plan. Don't let the money thought stop you. This could be the best decision you ever make.
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MN, just to offer some perspective on trying to tackle this on your own...I remember your first post...it was on your birthday in August (I think you shortened your username after that so I can't find your original post). Since then, you have been struggling to keep school and work in the mix while you tackle this on your own.
Maybe it's time to let those things go for now. If you keep going in this direction, school and work aren't going to work out anyway, so why not quit while you're ahead and get some help?
Maybe it's time to let those things go for now. If you keep going in this direction, school and work aren't going to work out anyway, so why not quit while you're ahead and get some help?
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Originally Posted by kadidee
MN, just to offer some perspective on trying to tackle this on your own...I remember your first post...it was on your birthday in August (I think you shortened your username after that so I can't find your original post). Since then, you have been struggling to keep school and work in the mix while you tackle this on your own.
Maybe it's time to let those things go for now. If you keep going in this direction, school and work aren't going to work out anyway, so why not quit while you're ahead and get some help?
Maybe it's time to let those things go for now. If you keep going in this direction, school and work aren't going to work out anyway, so why not quit while you're ahead and get some help?
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MN who says what any of us should do when we are 20? or 40? The most amazing people on earth are the ones that throw the templates out the window. You've had a different path. The word "should" jumped out at me from your post. That is a pretty harsh way to live because you can keep moving the goal posts. What if you just acknowledge that you are right where you are meant to be right now. Not yesterday and not tomorrow, just right now. The shoulds and the musts can be paralyzing. That's a lot of weight to carry around.
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Originally Posted by jaynie04
MN who says what any of us should do when we are 20? or 40? The most amazing people on earth are the ones that throw the templates out the window. You've had a different path.
MN, I'm 40 too.
And I've also put off doing lots of things for many years. I'm still new to sober life and taking it day by day, but I see a lot more hope and possibility in all areas of life the further I get from my last drink.Thinking of you, hang in there.
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Hi MN . A couple of thousand dollars isn't much in the big scheme of things cos you cant put a price on your life.
If you really cant go to work , get admitted and make this day the start of fixing you. The other things will just have to fall into place.
Maybe when your mum comes to pick you up , just be honest with her in the car. Detour to the hospital and pour your heart out, she probably has more of an idea than you think,
You cant do this by yourself anymore
It really can get better , you can get better
Hugs xx
If you really cant go to work , get admitted and make this day the start of fixing you. The other things will just have to fall into place.
Maybe when your mum comes to pick you up , just be honest with her in the car. Detour to the hospital and pour your heart out, she probably has more of an idea than you think,
You cant do this by yourself anymore
It really can get better , you can get better
Hugs xx
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Originally Posted by MN81713
I am going to try this one last time to do it on my own and WILL, as I past stated, will drive myself to treatment if I fail....
Surrender sweetie...you cannot do this on your own. Give up that notion. I have witnessed it beat you again and again in a very short time. Heck I've only been sober 4 months. Call your Dad. Call AA. DO SOMETHING. You're bloodied and battered and you just keep going back in the ring for another round. It's going to kill you.
It's over. Can't you see that? You have lost and you NEED HELP. Please hon..please.
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You are all right, just woke up on bathroom floor, lovely...didn't go to school as I said earlier and it's now 2:38am and didn't go to work....sure that job is gone. I will be going to an AA meeting somewhere today, my family does not know, it would kill them to know I again, lied to drink so just going to go on my own....Day 2....I don't know what is going to happen at this point (school, job, etc.) but my main focus is I have to get over withdraw and stay sober. Thank you all for the messages, PM's and again, sticking with me....I will keep everyone updated, going to check out for now (SR)....I will read posts, but until I have better news, I am saying the same thing.....my goal again, stay sober and a shower would be nice...Thanks all....Amy
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Amy , it would kill your family NOT to know
Parents are not as fragile as you think
.
Im a Mum with 4 kids , i would want to know .
I would do everything in my power to help my son or daughters if they were where you are now hon.
You obviously cant do this by yourself and I'm
worried about you
Xx
Parents are not as fragile as you think
.
Im a Mum with 4 kids , i would want to know .
I would do everything in my power to help my son or daughters if they were where you are now hon.
You obviously cant do this by yourself and I'm
worried about you
Xx
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Originally Posted by SnoozyQ
Amy , it would kill your family NOT to know
Parents are not as fragile as you think
.
Im a Mum with 4 kids , i would want to know .
I would do everything in my power to help my son or daughters if they were where you are now hon.
You obviously cant do this by yourself and I'm
worried about you
Xx
Parents are not as fragile as you think
.
Im a Mum with 4 kids , i would want to know .
I would do everything in my power to help my son or daughters if they were where you are now hon.
You obviously cant do this by yourself and I'm
worried about you
Xx
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Originally Posted by MN81713
You are all right, just woke up on bathroom floor, lovely...didn't go to school as I said earlier and it's now 2:38am and didn't go to work....sure that job is gone. I will be going to an AA meeting somewhere today, my family does not know, it would kill them to know I again, lied to drink so just going to go on my own....Day 2....I don't know what is going to happen at this point (school, job, etc.) but my main focus is I have to get over withdraw and stay sober. Thank you all for the messages, PM's and again, sticking with me....I will keep everyone updated, going to check out for now (SR)....I will read posts, but until I have better news, I am saying the same thing.....my goal again, stay sober and a shower would be nice...Thanks all....Amy
You may not have to quit school at all. But if you do have to take a break, think of how long your break will be if you die. It's that serious. I realize it's in my sig line but a year ago I made a frank assessment of my drinking and concluded I would be lucky to make it another 3-5 years at the rate I was going. I was faced with a choice of a few more good drinking years followed by a miserable end or potentially another two or three decades. But it was either/or, I couldn't have both. And as much as I loved getting drunk, I found the thought of dying to be a real drag.
I know you think that at your age you can't quit school. I can sympathize. But tell me this: At what age will it be easier to stop drinking? There will never be a better time than right now. Waiting will not make it easier, it just be more hard miles on your heart, liver and pancreas. Think of all that things that could make your Golden Years a lot less golden...things like diabetes, cirrhosis and general organ failure.
I'm not trying to be a jerk by any means, just offer some hard to hear advice. I walked in your shoes, and it's frankly a miracle I survived 25 years of hard drinking without suffering worse consequences than I have. I quit while I was behind rather than wait til I was further behind.
You might need medical help to detox if you can't taper on your own. There's nothing irreplaceable except your health and life so don't neglect that. Any disappointment your family feels will be a lot milder than the grief they'll face if you die.
Take care of yourself and stay with us, MN81713. We care and we want to help.
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Originally Posted by MythOfSisyphus
I'm 44 years old, finishing the bachelor's degree I should have finished when I was 22. I did the first few years of my 2nd crack at school while working full time and being a full time drunk. It was damn hard. I did a subpar job at all three...well, I guess I did a pretty good job of being a drunk!
You may not have to quit school at all. But if you do have to take a break, think of how long your break will be if you die. It's that serious. I realize it's in my sig line but a year ago I made a frank assessment of my drinking and concluded I would be lucky to make it another 3-5 years at the rate I was going. I was faced with a choice of a few more good drinking years followed by a miserable end or potentially another two or three decades. But it was either/or, I couldn't have both. And as much as I loved getting drunk, I found the thought of dying to be a real drag.
I know you think that at your age you can't quit school. I can sympathize. But tell me this: At what age will it be easier to stop drinking? There will never be a better time than right now. Waiting will not make it easier, it just be more hard miles on your heart, liver and pancreas. Think of all that things that could make your Golden Years a lot less golden...things like diabetes, cirrhosis and general organ failure.
I'm not trying to be a jerk by any means, just offer some hard to hear advice. I walked in your shoes, and it's frankly a miracle I survived 25 years of hard drinking without suffering worse consequences than I have. I quit while I was behind rather than wait til I was further behind.
You might need medical help to detox if you can't taper on your own. There's nothing irreplaceable except your health and life so don't neglect that. Any disappointment your family feels will be a lot milder than the grief they'll face if you die.
Take care of yourself and stay with us, MN81713. We care and we want to help.
You may not have to quit school at all. But if you do have to take a break, think of how long your break will be if you die. It's that serious. I realize it's in my sig line but a year ago I made a frank assessment of my drinking and concluded I would be lucky to make it another 3-5 years at the rate I was going. I was faced with a choice of a few more good drinking years followed by a miserable end or potentially another two or three decades. But it was either/or, I couldn't have both. And as much as I loved getting drunk, I found the thought of dying to be a real drag.
I know you think that at your age you can't quit school. I can sympathize. But tell me this: At what age will it be easier to stop drinking? There will never be a better time than right now. Waiting will not make it easier, it just be more hard miles on your heart, liver and pancreas. Think of all that things that could make your Golden Years a lot less golden...things like diabetes, cirrhosis and general organ failure.
I'm not trying to be a jerk by any means, just offer some hard to hear advice. I walked in your shoes, and it's frankly a miracle I survived 25 years of hard drinking without suffering worse consequences than I have. I quit while I was behind rather than wait til I was further behind.
You might need medical help to detox if you can't taper on your own. There's nothing irreplaceable except your health and life so don't neglect that. Any disappointment your family feels will be a lot milder than the grief they'll face if you die.
Take care of yourself and stay with us, MN81713. We care and we want to help.
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Originally Posted by MythOfSisyphus
Good luck, MN81713. I know it sucks right now but it will get better. Take care of yourself. Get a good night's sleep and know tomorrow is another day.
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This is just stupid...all these people with advice and days, months, years....now I am, again going to "self medicate" goodnight and God bless...feeling, well I am sure you know...another promise to show up to work....I have to try...Goodnight, Thank You......Amy
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Amy - the longer you put off doing something, the longer you're going to drink.,..and the greater the likelihood that all these secrets and lies will come crashing down, or something bad is going to happen with you at the centre.
It's inevitable really - unless you do something now...something different...to change the outcome.
we can offer you all the advice in the world, but if you won't take it, if you won't do anything but drink, we can't help you stop that runaway train.
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It's inevitable really - unless you do something now...something different...to change the outcome.
we can offer you all the advice in the world, but if you won't take it, if you won't do anything but drink, we can't help you stop that runaway train.
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This is her mother called and told me the truth and she will not let them admit her until I write here she can't have internet access- you have all been victim to what our family has dealt with for years-now more lies-were done Amy is manipulative and lies constantly with that she is being admitted and we are done. She can call a cab
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