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Old 09-30-2013, 04:53 PM
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I drank my last drink the morning I checked into detox in a hospital. Two shots of scotch in my coffee, then one more in my second cup. I got to the hospital at 9 am. I count that day but as said, three years later, no big deal. In fact I don't celebrate the years anymore per se. I am a non drinker and claim to be recovered because I don't give alcohol a thought. Nor count its absence at all anymore. I think my excitement over claiming a year was over after year one, and before year two.

I don't care what day one counts to start counting. The important thing is to keep rolling up the days not whether it was the first day we did not drink, or the last day we did.

What's next? Do we not count sobriety until all alcohol is out of our system? Which is after three days of detox. Do we need to take a B.A.T. ?

See there is still alcohol in our system, so technically we aren't "clean" for several days. Do we back up one day for every leap year so we aren't celebrating another year sober a day or three early?

Stay sober, count any way you want as long as you count sober!
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Old 09-30-2013, 05:05 PM
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I quit the night I joined here. About half way through my first thread, I put the beer down and continued to post. It was kind of weird because my normal routine was to drink until I passed out but that night I just concentrated on my breathing and fell into a deep and contented sleep. The next morning I returned to my original thread, to let those that helped me the night before, know I had thrown the rest of my beer in the dumpster and would never drink again and never change my mind.

As to the question, I don't really know. I had my moment of clarity the night I joined here but I made my Big Plan the next day.

For me, I will likely acknowledge the evening I joined here as the day I recovered.
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Old 09-30-2013, 05:35 PM
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Who cares?

I was sober when I got up this morning and I plan on being sober when I go to bed. That's all that matters to me.

Tomorrow, I will try to repeat this.
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Old 09-30-2013, 08:25 PM
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Who cares?
Saved me the trouble.
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Old 09-30-2013, 09:42 PM
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Wow I never thought about this that much! 4 sept 2012 is my date, but I think I did drink past midnight the night before--really can't remember between the lying on the floor crying, calling my boyfriend, and heaven knows what else. I think I also may have had a sip of beer the next morning. I do remember opening an oil can of foster's and staring at it for a long time, then pouring it out. I'm thinking I didn't drink any because one swallow and I don't think I would've stopped....

I agree it doesn't really matter. It's a personal thing. I guess I could say my sobriety date is "on or around 4 sept"
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Old 10-01-2013, 01:56 AM
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Alcoholics are funny a lot. We go through hell in varying degrees. We scratch and claw our way out to sobriety. We are sober, yet we still want to justify and compare ourselves to others. He said, she said, they said. I have found that if we get enough people to agree with us then we can feel justified or *GASP* superior.
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Old 10-01-2013, 02:57 AM
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I cringe a little when old timers mention their years of sobriety and a few ooohhs and ahhhs are to be heard from those in the meeting. It's like everyone's playing Survivor and the ones with more time own the tiki torch. I have been sober since I got up and hope to go to bed sober tonight.
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Old 10-01-2013, 03:27 AM
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To be honest. , i really cant remember .all i know is that it is somewhere between 28th of june and 3rd july . I wasn't looking at specifically giving up , i had been on a bender ...the days after that i was sick and dates were the last thing on my mind as i was anticipating drinking. Then getting sick made my decision for me. For me though , i would class my sobriety date on the day after my last drink. That for me is my first sober day , but hey...its only a number and each to our own, the longer we go on the less relevant it becomes i spose .
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Old 10-01-2013, 06:50 PM
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Originally Posted by Dee74 View Post
I don't believe sobriety dates were ever meant to be a competitive sport, or bandied about like cudgels.

Kinda weird how that happens.

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It definately is not. My date for me is very important because each day I make it sober is one more day of getting my life back. I am proud of each day because I have earned those days, but this is what I have to do for ME. I would never compare mine to someone elses.

Edited to add that when my dad went to AA they always started out: it has been so so many days since I had my last drink.
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Old 10-01-2013, 08:44 PM
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I used to use my last day of drinking for the first six months, I just recently changed it to the next day. It's kinda weird though because my last day was February 28th, so sometimes depending on the month, it's either the 29th or the 1st.
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Old 10-01-2013, 08:59 PM
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I don't think the important thing is which you decide to use, just that you have one!
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Old 10-01-2013, 09:06 PM
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I plan on never drinking again and if I do that my sobriety date and birthday will be the same!
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Old 10-02-2013, 06:08 AM
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I use the first day not drinking. I went to bed drunk the night before and was probably still drunk after midnight. But that first day ( after I woke up) has significance for me.

I know someone in AA who had relapsed and uses the day they picked up their white chip, which was like a week after they had actually quit drinking. To each their own, I guess.
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Old 10-02-2013, 06:18 AM
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Hi Mirage ;-). What does the white chip signify ?
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Hi Mirage ;-). What does the white chip signify ?
Hey Snoozy. In AA, the white chip signifies surrender. It's what newcomers or relapsers pick up at the end of a meeting that says they are ready to quit again. The also hand out chips for 30 days, 90 days, 6 months, etc.
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Old 10-02-2013, 02:06 PM
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Thank you xx. :-)
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Old 11-13-2013, 04:28 PM
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I counted the days a lot at first and still remember the day I decided to quit (9/2/13). I have since had a couple of slips and now I'm just taking it day by day. The 24 hour commitment thread does a good job of keeping track for me, though
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Old 11-14-2013, 03:30 AM
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Could some folks here explain how one can use the date of his/her last drink as their sober date..............
August 28, 1984 is my first day without picking up a drink. August 27 is the date I put it down.

27 was always a lucky number for me.

I chose to make August 27 my sober date.

To make sense of it early on and not feel like I was being deceptive in any way I'd say, that's the date I quit drinking. That's the date I put the drink down. That's the date I had my last drink. Decades later, the actual date means very little. I say use whatever date make one happy.
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Old 11-14-2013, 11:50 PM
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I used to entertain myself with this question. I also discovered it is similar to "when is a baby one year old". It matters less in time- enjoy sober life

For me the 15th of the month is a special day- May 15 is like my "new" birthday- I like it
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Old 11-15-2013, 07:54 AM
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Last Saturday night I drank 1 bottle off wine and 3 beers - when i woke up sunday i tried to piece together my previous evening which was very foggy - decided I was to far in and it was time to get out - 6 days now
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