It's never too late to hit a new low...
Thank you for your thoughts. Please know I think about every one of them I did talk to my husband last night. It's not right to say uncomplimentary things about your spouse, here or anywhere. Ill deal with this marriage some other time. I'll be here at the cabin util October 8. I'll follow thru with the screen and rehab plan when I get home. One of the things I got out of your posts, you're right, I can't take on the whole world and sobriety. I spend a bunch of brain power worrying about crap I can't control. Yes I had drinks last night, enough to keep out of detox. I don't want to detox out here in the sticks where the nearest hospital is 30 minutes away. The cabin is not in town. After detox I am going to be with my family in Alaska. I just ask you this, right know can we get the husband off the table for discussion. Foolsgold was right That is an issue I'll deal with later and sober. He is not to blame. To date he has not made me drink. Maybe it will work out maybe not. But bashing him and only knowing my side is not working.
Ok I love you SR.
Snark me Baby!
Ok I love you SR.
Snark me Baby!
Tis your life, all we can do is advise, sometimes we're sweet, sometimes we're tough. I think most of the tough posts come from caring. Do your best to take your intake low until you get to your planned detox, going to bed early can help I recall. I wish you the best.
ETA: Certainly we can keep discussions about your hubby off the table, at least I can.
ETA: Certainly we can keep discussions about your hubby off the table, at least I can.
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There are many ways to the top of the mountain, and for many here rehab was a part of that journey, and a vitally important part of their success
Sometimes I think some of us we need a little break from our lives and from from the world to get a kick start.
I really hope you go for it Raider
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Sometimes I think some of us we need a little break from our lives and from from the world to get a kick start.
I really hope you go for it Raider
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I am so proud of those who can make it while still handling the pressures of life. I know I couldn't.
Well this sucks. Woke up after drinking most of the night, only to drink some more. If that's not crappy enough, let's grab the cell phone and call your parents who are in their 80's and a billion miles away in Alaska. Might as well suck them into your nightmare. Crying and waling uncontrollably on the phone with them last night.
Feel like crap, feel like crying, had to call them back this morning so they would at least know I am still living. This disease sucks.
Ack!!!!
Feel like crap, feel like crying, had to call them back this morning so they would at least know I am still living. This disease sucks.
Ack!!!!
After the first few days I kinda liked rehab. They wanted to send me home in 3 weeks, I stayed for 4. I felt it a positive experience in my life, even the parts that weren't completely about alcohol. Shot pool, played games, went on walks, read books, watched movies, learned interesting things about other people, made some friends, found some new musical artists I liked. There was hard work, but there was also the time to relearn appreciation for things that I had completely stopped doing due to my obsession with booze. I think a lot of people that haven't been to rehab or don't want to go may only understand the work part....
I cannot thank you enough for your posts. Yes longbeachone, I am ready for someone to tell me what todo and how to do it. I did not realize what a nightmare this trip would be. Thank you guys.
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Raider, be honest. Do you really, honestly want to get sober?
There seems to be a part of you sabotaging your efforts and I think you know what it is. You need to face and solve that. Really do look into this and make the effort.
I wish you the best of luck!
J.
There seems to be a part of you sabotaging your efforts and I think you know what it is. You need to face and solve that. Really do look into this and make the effort.
I wish you the best of luck!
J.
James872' I asked that same question earlier in this post. It is something I think about a lot. It is one of my biggest fears. I'm scared to death I don't want sobriety enough to achieve it.
Ready - no I'm tapering. Yes, I know not ideal. Back to Utah a week from Monday.
Ready - no I'm tapering. Yes, I know not ideal. Back to Utah a week from Monday.
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You don't need to answer on here if you don't want to, since it can be pretty personal stuff. But it's something to look into and take care of, if necessary.
It could be. I am so filled with fear I feel paralyzed. I have read under the Influence last week. I learned a lot about the disease. I just started reading I'll Quit Tomorrow. I'm looking inward and outward to figure this thing out. Thanks for responding. I appreciate it.
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Raider, I think, after observing what, how you've described yourself and your not/willing to use the mirror (as written before), there's still not one move forward you've literally done so far in your decision: quit or self-pity a bit longer to have another "remarkable" excuse for further drinking. None of people here, not one miraculous post, will make you decide if you want to be an active alcoholic and take responsibility for it. Try to answer yourself what does "first things first" really mean to you. Take care.
Raider, I think, after observing what, how you've described yourself and your not/willing to use the mirror (as written before), there's still not one move forward you've literally done so far in your decision: quit or self-pity a bit longer to have another "remarkable" excuse for further drinking. None of people here, not one miraculous post, will make you decide if you want to be an active alcoholic and take responsibility for it. Try to answer yourself what does "first things first" really mean to you. Take care.
That's exactly how I felt right before WHAM! I will pm you what happened. It wasn't so much a choice it was more a reaction. Like falling asleep at the wheel and waking up to see the headlights of a semi coming at you. You don't take time to think about who is in who's lane. You just get out of the way. I though your were not going to get back to us until after your vacation. I am so glad you didn't wait Raider.
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Wouldn't you feel better having another drink, knowing there're are people (unknown, unanimous - safe) who don't contemn you, but let you delude yourself in wishing and willing for you. It' s absolutely obvious that manipulation in self-pitting and yearning for attraction and sympathy is not a willingness to change/quit drinking - fundamental requirement to sobriety. Sincere willingness is not for sale. But is achievable, indeed! For those who seek!
Best would be to ask the most involved in this matter and answer herself in her heart.
Best would be to ask the most involved in this matter and answer herself in her heart.
Wouldn't you feel better having another drink, knowing there're are people (unknown, unanimous - safe) who don't contemn you, but let you delude yourself in wishing and willing for you. It' s absolutely obvious that manipulation in self-pitting and yearning for attraction and sympathy is not a willingness to change/quit drinking - fundamental requirement to sobriety. Sincere willingness is not for sale. But is achievable, indeed! For those who seek!
Best would be to ask the most involved in this matter and answer herself in her heart.
Best would be to ask the most involved in this matter and answer herself in her heart.
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