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Old 09-13-2013, 08:21 AM
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Again. 🏇🏇🏇🏇🏇🏇🏇🏇

Ok

Thanks for the messages from SR. Yes, I fell off the horse again. But I'm back up and riding Victory again. 🏇

My horse, my rules, my will power. I own this horse and I am determined to ride her into sobriety.

Come on Victory!!!!

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Old 09-13-2013, 08:23 AM
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Here we go Raider! Let's kill this weekend sober, baby!


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Old 09-13-2013, 08:30 AM
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Just wondering, have you been able to identify what it is that leads to you drinking again? It's worth looking into and finding a solution, otherwise you might end up in the same place again.
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Old 09-13-2013, 08:33 AM
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Originally Posted by Raider View Post
My horse, my rules, my will power.
Will power? You might not understand your affliction. It's not lack of will that leads you to drink.
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Old 09-13-2013, 08:35 AM
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Good morning Raider. I don't pray, but you are in my thoughts. I already made my suggestions so I won't harp on them. Please have a happy sober weekend. We are all here for you.
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Old 09-13-2013, 08:38 AM
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Let's make it a sober weekend!
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Old 09-13-2013, 08:38 AM
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Will power? You might not understand your affliction. It's not lack of will that leads you to drink.
Agree 100% with Carl. I really am here to cheer you on Raider. BUT if you haven't you should have a talk with hubby about how serious this is. Having alcohol in the house is a recipe for disaster.
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Old 09-13-2013, 09:04 AM
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James - no I haven't
Carl - what do you mean
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Silent - you are right
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hang on tight raider x
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Lorelei I will
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Old 09-13-2013, 09:11 AM
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Glad to see you are back on the horse Raider. Just remember though that even the best horse needs direction to get you where you want to go. SR can certainly help be your guide, i'm wondering if perhaps you might find some additional help locally? Especially with your daily proximity to alcohol. I remember your fight and this cycle all to well, as many of us do here. Just want to make sure you are doing everything you possibly can and using as many resources as you can find to beat this thing.
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Old 09-13-2013, 09:15 AM
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Scot - thank you for the advice.
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Old 09-13-2013, 09:17 AM
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Raider - good luck but you may want to think of a more focused solution. 30 days in treatment might help get you out of your routine, which might be the best way to break this cycle you are in.

Other tid bits, try to change your routine and occupy your time. Weekends seem to be tougher than the rest of the days, particularly if you work during the week. Boredom can be a killer so try to make a plan to fill any voids and execute on it. Good luck
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Carl - what do you mean
I mean, will power alone will not keep an alcoholic sober.
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Old 09-13-2013, 09:23 AM
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Jdooner - I will change it up today
Carl - I need The Lord's help. You're right. Not just will power
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Raider - were you 100% honest with your husband about what happened last night? Or are you sneaking? . . . . Does CelebrateRecovery have a sponsor program?
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Old 09-13-2013, 09:46 AM
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James - no I haven't
Carl - what do you mean
Fools & Zelda - thanks
Silent - you are right
Ok, so there you are, sober. Then there comes that first moment that sets things in motion that lead to drinking. What is the first thing that happens in that first moment?
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Like Carl and Silentrun, I too winced a little at the "my horse, my rules, my willpower". Overcoming and transcending addiction is so much more than "just say no!". That being said, you are not a weak or bad person should you pick up that drink...but I would say you might be a little uninformed or ill prepared for what you are truly dealing with.

You can do this but you have to have a plan of action when cravings strike. You have to find a pause between craving and pouring that drink. Have you posted here before pouring? Have you found that pause to ask yourself a few questions like "okay..what's going here..why am I craving?". Am I Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired?.

Learn to be much more inquisitive of yourself and your actions. Don't judge..wonder!
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A guy at AA commented on the effectiveness of will power and alcoholism a few days ago. He commented rather crudely that it is about as effective as telling someone on the toilet with diarrhoea to stop going!

A commitment is important. I promised myself to remember how bad I felt just prior to making the decision to quit and also that I would attend AA meetings until 'it stuck'. Regular reinforcement is too I think - for me anyway, which is why I go to AA.

You have commented negatively about AA I think Raider, but you might give it a go. I go and I'm an atheist, but if you go with a religious faith at your disposal as it were you will have a great head start.
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Argh - perhaps a bit much focus on the will part. I believe my will is involved in all my sober decisions.
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