need help! NO Clue where to start!
 

Good evening,
My little brother has serious issues with substance abuse that I am no longer in a position to help him with. His only hope now in my opinion is a full on rehab facility. However, i don't have any clue where to start looking and what criteria i should be looking for in these particular facilities.

I (we) are in the Beaumont, Texas area and I could really use some help trying to figure this stuff out.

Thanks.

Hi Charlie - welcome to SR.

I know it's really hard to stand by while people self destruct - I'm sorry for your situation.

I don't think you can force recovery on someone tho.
There needs to be an internal desire, in my experience.

Is your brother into the idea or are you doing most of the work?

D

:welcome


Give this link a look. Hope it helps.:)


Beaumont Texas Treatment Centers

Family, friends and my self are doing most of the work unfortunately. But even now as he finds himself homeless and drifting, he seems unwilling to change. I would have taken him in but i have two small children that i cannot put at risk with his behaviors.

The main problem is that he is going to kill himself if he goes much further.
The other day, I walked into my home to find him BLACKED OUT, fallen over from a can of air duster he was huffing, and now he is talking shrooms, tabs, and fake weed. He doesn't know when to stop and i am worried for his life. i can't control him. i can't make him change. But i won't let him kill himself. This pattern has grown worse over the past couple of years and i fear for his future.

Unfortunately when I was deep in my addiction I had little say in what happened to me, so my friends and family were actually even less able than I was to effect a change.

I don't want to paint a uniformly bleak picture tho - I recovered and so have hundreds of others here :)

Maybe you need to focus on you a little more?

I think you'd get a lot out of alanon Charlie - it might give you some tools to deal with the situation you're in.

I hope you'll also check out our Family and Friends forums Charlie - I think you'll find a lot of support and useful experience down there.

D

no sarcasm-seriously asking here
how and what should i be focusing on me more? and how would that help?

The bald fact is nothing will help your brother until he wants help - no rehab, no recovery programme.

There is a lot you can do to help yourself and rest of the family tho - thats what AlAnon is about.

What is Al-Anon and Alateen? | Psych Central

I know it's counter intuitive to what you come here for, but it's really what I'd suggest.

D

I guess i will have to check it out.

thanks

I can only really give it to you from an alcoholics side Charlie - nothing happened for me until I decided it needed to happen.

hopefully more family and friends folks will chime in :)

D