johnatahn1

So Basically my brother wants to order pizza and get some beer and watch the football with me .I don't know what to say

pinkdog

Hi john, say "pizza sounds great" and order a soda.

lorelei

Does he have any idea of your drinking problem J?

johnatahn1

its like beers always comes with pizza and football ..im trying to word it to him no basicllly

johnatahn1

nope he dosent x

jaynie04

Are you going to feel resentful in that situation because you can't drink? Could it trigger you?

johnatahn1

ive said im not feeling any beers and ill get some fizzy drink I should be ok if im strong x

lorelei

Okay, well its only day 2, if you're feeling vulnerable in your sobriety, putting yourself in the line of fire may not be a good idea, obviously its your choice, but if he doesn't realise your struggle, he'll most likely want to know why, so you need to think about what you'll tell him....

Or just say no this time.

L xx

lorelei

Make your choice, then stick to it J x

not2late

Hey..I love football and it "goes" together because it's been our habit for so long. Just tell him you don't feel like beer and have soda. I'm gonna have to deal with that this weekend too so I feel ya. I'm just on day 12.

Lightning Bug

Do you really think you should be doing this on your second day?

MsJax

There is no way that I could be around pizza & beer on my second day of sobriety.

It's ok to say no, avoid the whole thing.

jaynie04

I know some posters who were having a tough time here in the States last weekend because it was a holiday weekend. Which brought up some good advice, have a plan, an escape if the going gets rough. No one is going to know it but you, so if it gets too tough and you feel alone, leave. Good luck!

breath

Other than abstinence, do you have any sort of program, fellowship or plan? If you think you can "just quit" the odds are against you, and you won't be happy. Until we reach a point of acceptance and making the necessary changes are chances for success are small indeed. "Just saying no" doesn't work.

Best of luck, Keep Coming Back, it Works! Take Care.

Twofish

Hi John, Instead of thinking of all these " believable" reasons to tell your brother and the rest of the party why you are not having a beer, offer to be the designated driver? I would believe it! Have fun at the party, enjoy spending time with your brother, that's more important than a beer, right? TF

johnatahn1

thanks for all your great responses .much love to you all were having just pizza and no beer cause im having no beer he cant be bothered to get some himself haha lazy little so and so

trikyriky

Good job , better he suffer , drinking soda

Ha! Ha!

Tr

pinkdog

Yea! Awesome!

CuteNGayYay

Nicely done brotha!

deeker

No thanks Bro! plain and simple. Gotta set boundaries especially in early recovery.