fhl41

I used to love cooking with a glass of wine, now that I don't drink, i hate cooking, anybody had this problem, I hate food right now actually, well not hate, its just more of an aversion.

I just feel so sick to my stomach about it since I have come to this realization, what to do though, I mean we need to eat!

Sorry on a bit of a rant right now. I used to also love to cook for my loved one but i don't have one right now (taking a break from dating too-want to get used to sober life on my own first), I cook for my son but he is a very picky eater and sucks all the joy out of it.

I am forcing myself to make something tonight for my neighbour, maybe that will help.

ReadyAtLast

I understand as am the same. I used to love cooking,spending hours drinking whilst cooking. when I quit drinking, cooking became merely a functional task. I'm nearly 9 months now and can't say I'm back into cooking fully yet though I'm having a new kitchen fitted so am hopeful

Pondlady

I too used to enjoy drinking wine while cooking. I've gone through different phases over the past year. I currently have had zip interest in cooking this summer. I just posted in another thread that I'm not going to feel guilty about it.....makes time for other interests and I'm sure the cooking bug will strike again

alphaomega

Right there with you. In fact, my family just asked what's for dinner. And I'm all "You tell me ?"

I drank my way through every single dinner I prepared over the last 20 years. And I mean Every dinner. I hid my alcoholism behind a Julia Child facade, thinking if I drank Cakebread (followed by 2 buck) while I prepared coq au vin, it somehow made me less of a gutter drunk.

I am still only a few sips away from being that gutter drunk. So until I have a better handle on all this TV dinners it is !!!

Be well.

hayley86

Yes i felt like that too. I think the longer you are sober the less you will associate cooking with drinking wine. Or at least that was the case for me. I found it just took time for the association to fade. Now i very much enjoy cooking again and do not think of wine when i do cook.

Carlygirl

Hi

I think it's a great idea to cook for your neighbour. Maybe you could invite a guest one night a week and then you know you ( and a friend) will get a good meal once a week.

I don't work mons and tues and often make a few meals at 10am when my favourite radio programme is on. Means I just need to reheat when I get home from work and am tired or short of time.

maybe change the time you cook or cook in bulk, freeze and reheat?

Carly

FourSeasons

Hi Fhl41 - I am the exact opposite! I absolutely hate to cook. Always have. Thus, I ate out all the time. This also gave me a GREAT excuse to order martinis before my meal and wine during. ... All my money went to supporting my foodie addiction.

Since I have decided to give up alcohol once and for all, I have no desire to eat out (at least for now in that I am in early sobriety)... what's the point if I am not going to have wine and martinis.

I just enrolled in a basic Cooking 101 class and this starts in about a week. Now I just have to learn how to go food shopping!

longbeachone

That sounds awesome fourseasons! I would love to take a cooking class. I also want to take cake decorating. I think food tastes so much better now. When I drank, I tried to avoid eating because it interfered with my buzz, so I made whatever was easy. Since I had my husband and three sons to cook for, and they would eat virtually anything, I didn't try very hard. Now I like to surprise my husband (boys are grown) with new things I see on the Food Network. I'm getting to be a pretty good cook too!

Soberpotamus

Yes, same here. Used to love food and cooking. I haven't enjoyed cooking since getting sober. Haven't really enjoyed eating either. Somehow there was a strong connection for me with drinking wine and cooking (and eating). My husband isn't thrilled about this either, but that's just tough for him. Maybe he will quit being intimidated in the kitchen. His mom really did us a disservice by dominating the kitchen and discouraging him from making food. Shame on all you moms who have incapacitated your sons!

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Mountainmanbob

ersatzmatriarch

i'm not back to full capacity in the kitchen yet, but i have found a couple things to help me out, because i also drank wine while cooking. well, i drank wine all bloody day, but the two coffee mugs full while cooking were my faves. (classy, i know.)

anyway... i have a glass of v8 fusion while cooking as my first line of defense. (light blueberry pom is the best), and i drink it out of a proper juice glass... coffee mugs are strictly for coffee and tea now-a-days...

i also stopped watching 'triple d' or 'chopped' while cooking. i really only turn the tv on for cooking and after the kids are in bed, but i loved that 'me time'... so now i either keep the tv off (more on that in a minute), or put 'house hunters' or ancient episodes of 'friends' on instead. i don't know why that helps, but it does.

the other thing that helps me is, since i do AA, i try to time the last part of my almost daily call to my sponsor to coincide with dinner making. (that's when i keep the tv off.)

cooking still mostly feels like i chore, rather than a passion again, but it's not so painful anymore. but, i'm hopeful the joy will come back one day...

fhl41

thank you all for your responses, i feel better knowing I am not the only one feeling like this. I hope my passion for cooking comes back, for now I will do what I can. If frozen pizza is all I can muster occasionally than too bad - at least I'll be sober cooking it.

Carlotta

That's funny. I never really enjoyed cooking in the first place but I used to love drinking and scrubbing my house. Since I quit drinking I realized that I hate cleaning.