Feelings
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Feelings
I never knew all these negative emotions were covered with alcohol. I am so alone and scared, I just keep returning to the horrible things that happened to my mom, dad, and me. I just have to cry. I hope some of you all feel good this labor day weekend.
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Sorry you feel that way Acheleus. Have you tried to talk to someone about these horrible feelings/thoughts?
I know sometimes for me I get caught up in my negative thinking and keep replaying things that have happened in the past, just rehashing things that are never going to change. A lot of times what helps me is to get out and get some fresh air, take a walk in a park, somewhere just to clear me head and get a little space. It kind of "resets" my head so to speak.
I don't know what happened in the past but if its traumatic maybe some counseling would help or just talking about your fears. Holding it in and dealing with it yourself will probably make it worse.
Hang in there.
I know sometimes for me I get caught up in my negative thinking and keep replaying things that have happened in the past, just rehashing things that are never going to change. A lot of times what helps me is to get out and get some fresh air, take a walk in a park, somewhere just to clear me head and get a little space. It kind of "resets" my head so to speak.
I don't know what happened in the past but if its traumatic maybe some counseling would help or just talking about your fears. Holding it in and dealing with it yourself will probably make it worse.
Hang in there.
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I am feeling emotional today too. The whole week really. The other day I cried like I haven't cried in a long time...couldn't breathe in or out. But I felt I let some pent up pain go. When we are sober we can feel and let go of our pain. In my opinion anyway. What I know 100% without doubt is that a drink won't solve anything. Glad you posted this here, you are not alone 
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I called my dad but he was in bed feeling bad himself. I have no friends and no one to talk to, which makes this even harder. I'm all off today, everything feels weird. I hope I will feel better in a little while.
Hang in There
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I don't know your situation, but I have struggled since getting sober. It seems like all the pain & hurt, I "tried" to drink away came back sevenfold.
The good news is the longer you're sober, the less severe the feelings.
I had to learn that not drinking wasn't the only thing I had to do.
I started taking vitamins, exercising, etc. I damaged my brain w years of abuse so it's going to take awhile for it to heal.
when my mind starts taking me deep down into the pit of despair, I try to read or get on SR to keep my mind occupied.
I learned that feelings won't kill me but alcohol will.
Stay strong, it will pass...
The good news is the longer you're sober, the less severe the feelings.
I had to learn that not drinking wasn't the only thing I had to do.
I started taking vitamins, exercising, etc. I damaged my brain w years of abuse so it's going to take awhile for it to heal.
when my mind starts taking me deep down into the pit of despair, I try to read or get on SR to keep my mind occupied.
I learned that feelings won't kill me but alcohol will.
Stay strong, it will pass...
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I am sorry you are having a tough time Acheleus. It can be difficult to deal with negative emotions when newly sober. It is part of the healing process though and by facing these emotions without a drink you will feel stronger and more equipped to deal with them. If you need people to talk to there is a chat room on here. Lots of people use it for support. I hope you feel better soon.
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Hayley is right. About facing the emotions and that it will heal in time. I think that for however long we drank, we learned to cope by not feeling all these emotions. And they compound. Not some brilliant revelation But, it is what has happened. And so now, after having depleted some of the neurotransmitters in the brain, and kind of screwing up that neurochemistry a bit, we are removing the drug that was the patch. I can imagine that it takes as long as we drank to re-learn how to deal with life and emotions. I really wish it didn't take so long. Maybe, by doing things to help ourselves, like exercise, vitamins, eating healthy, getting around others, therapy, etc. we can speed the process along. I sure hope so. I am right there with ya
But, it is what has happened. And so now, after having depleted some of the neurotransmitters in the brain, and kind of screwing up that neurochemistry a bit, we are removing the drug that was the patch. I can imagine that it takes as long as we drank to re-learn how to deal with life and emotions. I really wish it didn't take so long. Maybe, by doing things to help ourselves, like exercise, vitamins, eating healthy, getting around others, therapy, etc. we can speed the process along. I sure hope so. I am right there with ya 
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Dear Acheleus, I'm sorry you are feeling down today. Try to get out and do something tomorrow. Maybe a thriftstore or hobbyshop. Find something to challenge your mind. Stay busy. I'm sending you love and a hug today. 
If you need to talk to someone, find a counselor or clergy. Talking it out helps too.
If you need to talk to someone, find a counselor or clergy. Talking it out helps too.
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I am just watching tv trying to calm down. I just want to be with my dad for some reason, he is the only family I have, and I don't have any friends. Says a lot about me I guess. I'm all broken inside, and I don't know why I can't just relax and enjoy my life. Sleeping and reading might be in order. Glad I have the day off tomorrow.
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