agnostic66

Hi- I have an issue. I am in the first couple of months of trying to get sober and am working a secular AA recovery program. I have a great sponsor. I have had more than one slip while working with her and only told her about one. I am afraid she is going to dump me and tell me to get 90 days before she'll meet with me again if i tell her i've slipped. What if I wait to tell her when i get to the 4th step or after i get my first 30 days?

susasober1

I'm nobody to judge but I would definitely suggest being honest right away if you want to keep her as a sponsor and stay sober. The slip that really matters is the last one that you had.

wakko

Soberity demands rigerous honesty. For good or bad you need to come clean

Dee74

I'm not in AA but I think honesty is vital. Fear and shame kept me drinking...I don't want that anymore.

D

seashelly

I second what Dee74 said. Fear and shame about drinking is definitely a trigger for further drinking....

Nattythreads

At the end of the day Agnostic, the only person you're really hurting is yourself. The feeling of being less-than-honest with yourself and your sponsor doesn't go away and will just get worse over time.

You did the hard part by reaching out and you have support. Use it.

wpainterw

O.K. I agree with the advice you have received that advocates complete honesty. What's the risk? That she'll "dump" you? If she does then get another sponsor and put this down as a learning experience. If I were your sponsor I wouldn't "dump" you. I'd say you were making progress. Complete honesty turns out to be a happy way to live once you get used to it. Like a breath of fresh air.It just takes a little while.

W.