My husband; is this normal
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My husband; is this normal
I realize that the fact that I am posting this suggests that it is not.... We went to a bike race this weekend, he purchased drinks for the hotel room afterwards. (We have 2 small children 5,3 that require parenting 24/7) I had two small white wines with dinner, he had two full strength**) beers. At the hotel he drank with diet coke a half of a pint. That morning I mentioned the 8 alcohol units associated with what he drank. He stated that it was only "two drinks worth". Wtf!!!!
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Normal for him? IDK. Sounds like he wanted a buzz. Did you guys watch the bike race or was he a participant? A lot, but by no means all or even most, cyclists love to drink after a tough ride. I know I did. Macho and all that, LOL....
If he does that sort of thing now and then, and he doesn't yell at the kids, drive, get abusive or makes an @ss out of himself... Then what is not "normal" is your micromanagement of the situation.
If he does it frequently, you might consider sharing your concerns with him and setting some boundaries... Not rules so much, rather what you will tolerate and will not. I too have experience with too many drinks and pills and a night in a hotel room with kids and wife. No one got hurt except me and my pride and I lost a little cred with the teenagers..... I was an @ss and that is one of several nights I wish I could take back.
Welcome to SR.... There is a family section as well.
If he does that sort of thing now and then, and he doesn't yell at the kids, drive, get abusive or makes an @ss out of himself... Then what is not "normal" is your micromanagement of the situation.
If he does it frequently, you might consider sharing your concerns with him and setting some boundaries... Not rules so much, rather what you will tolerate and will not. I too have experience with too many drinks and pills and a night in a hotel room with kids and wife. No one got hurt except me and my pride and I lost a little cred with the teenagers..... I was an @ss and that is one of several nights I wish I could take back.
Welcome to SR.... There is a family section as well.
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In case anyone is interested, I read the following years ago but facts are facts. A light social drinker has the equivalent of 1 beer, glass of wine or highball ONCE EVERY 2 WEEKS! OMG I’m so far off the scale!
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Sorry to double dip...
There are also cultural and religious norms for drinking as well... I see Wasatch in your name (awesome beautiful country, I am jealous, lol). I know that Mormons don't drink and that what you witnessed was something that many religions won't tolerate.
Or I could be offensively off base and if I was, please pardon me.... If I am not, it is a very important topic that you and he need to address. You have a new family and it's worth doing a little preventative work now.
There are also cultural and religious norms for drinking as well... I see Wasatch in your name (awesome beautiful country, I am jealous, lol). I know that Mormons don't drink and that what you witnessed was something that many religions won't tolerate.
Or I could be offensively off base and if I was, please pardon me.... If I am not, it is a very important topic that you and he need to address. You have a new family and it's worth doing a little preventative work now.
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