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So, after a few weeks of trying to moderate my drinking. Ive realised last night after I got drunk with a friend that it just isnt working for me. Im going to my first AA meeting this evening. My partner agreed to come with me. Im scared and nervous. But my life, health and relationship mean too much to me, I wont let wanting a couple glasses of wine take that away from me. Im irish and live in germany, but managed to find an international english speaking AA group in the next town, they do 2 meetings a week. Can anyone let me know what to expect? or Tips for a newbie sober person. I think my partner will probably go off the booze as well, tho he is a perfectly sensible drinker. I think he will do it just to support me. This is the beginning of the weekend when I would normally have a nice bottle of wine tonight and tomorrow. So its gonna be strange not to have that and probably be abit difficult for me.
Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Àine
Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
Àine
Good decision! Many of us, me included, came to the same decision. Moderating my drinking, or trying to, was exhausting.
I'm not an AA person, but my advice for the very early days is to change your routines. Plan to be doing something else at the time of day when you would normally be drinking. Shop at different stores, anything that helps to break the habit at the beginning.
I'm not an AA person, but my advice for the very early days is to change your routines. Plan to be doing something else at the time of day when you would normally be drinking. Shop at different stores, anything that helps to break the habit at the beginning.
My husband stopped drinking when I did (he drank rarely and very little to begin with). I think that helps a lot. It also sounds like you figured out the moderation problem pretty quick. I think you stand a good chance of getting sober and staying sober on your first try. Good luck and don't get complacent and don't start thinking "I don't really have a problem" as the sober time passes.
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I am just about to leave work for what I hope will be a first sober Friday in a long time. I have tried to plan it to make as smooth as possible thats about all I can suggest for now pretty new at this myself. It's not easy but waking up sober tomorrow is going to be so sweet. xx
I am just about to leave work for what I hope will be a first sober Friday in a long time. I have tried to plan it to make as smooth as possible thats about all I can suggest for now pretty new at this myself. It's not easy but waking up sober tomorrow is going to be so sweet. xx
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I am an AA guy.
The only thing that worked for me.
I guess my advice would be to go with an open mind. And if it is an open meeting with a speaker, if you cant relate to them, go again. Keep going until you enjoy going. Then decide.
The only thing that worked for me.
I guess my advice would be to go with an open mind. And if it is an open meeting with a speaker, if you cant relate to them, go again. Keep going until you enjoy going. Then decide.
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