Relapse is Traumatic I have a friend who use to use, a few times we used together. In fact, he is the only person I ever used with who is still alive and/or not in prison. (one out of 38). I no longer "hang out" with him, but we keep in touch thru facebook. When I discovered he was clean and in fact now a christian, I was overjoyed. I know that I cannot rely on others to keep me clean, but knowing how much he changed was hopeful and encouraging. I felt so proud of him. Then, after 7 years of sobriety, he relapsed and it scared the hell out of me. I know it wasn't my right to do so, but it hit me like a personal attack. I had to place my recovery shield about me because my sobriety felt endangered. I became so very angry with him. I wanted to say all the right things, but the right words could not be found. I know this sounds silly, but I actually felt traumatized by his relapse. I felt scared, vulnerable and sad. I find it hard to communicate with him now- even through facebook. I guess what I'm really afraid of is getting sucked into that black relapse hole. I just feel sad... almost defeated. :react |
Hi Chainfree :) I used to feel that way too - I did take other people relapses personally...and they did scare me too... I guess I learned eventually that I'm responsible for my own recovery - it's down to me and what I do, not dependent on what someone else does or doesn't do. As long as I keep doing what it takes for me to stay in recovery, I'm in recovery :) D |
You are responsible for you only, perhaps you took it so hard because you know you are, as we all are, one step away from a relapse. I do hope your friend finds his way back out! |
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