Difficult moment
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Difficult moment
I'm on day 2. Just a few hours ago I was filled with optimism and was feeling great. Now I suddenly really want to drink and feel depressed.
Are emotional ups and downs normal at first?
I won't give in to it but it is very difficult. How best to deal with it?
In this state I'm afraid that if I stay sober, I'll end up being depressed all the time.
How does one actually feel after being sober for a longer period of time?
Are emotional ups and downs normal at first?
I won't give in to it but it is very difficult. How best to deal with it?
In this state I'm afraid that if I stay sober, I'll end up being depressed all the time.
How does one actually feel after being sober for a longer period of time?
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It's totally normal. Well if you call normal bursting into tears for no reason and wanting to kill someone a moment later...
I found the best way to deal with it was to just roll with it, it's just a ride. Recognise your feelings for what they are and say 'oh that's interesting' and move on. Don't let your emotions rule you and drive you to drink. Look up urge surfing.
I have been sober for nearly a year and a half now and believe me it gets calm. It is a transition but I was amazed at the strength of my emotions in the early days and my relative saneness now. It does get better
x
I found the best way to deal with it was to just roll with it, it's just a ride. Recognise your feelings for what they are and say 'oh that's interesting' and move on. Don't let your emotions rule you and drive you to drink. Look up urge surfing.
I have been sober for nearly a year and a half now and believe me it gets calm. It is a transition but I was amazed at the strength of my emotions in the early days and my relative saneness now. It does get better
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Yes,your mood can change quite rapidly.
Try to keep busy.Visit here and read/post.
Those feelings will slowly disappear.
I know that when I was 14 months sober I didn't have any desire or thoughts of drinking.
My mistake was thinking I could "control" it if I started again.
Now I can't wait to get to the one year mark.
Try to keep busy.Visit here and read/post.
Those feelings will slowly disappear.
I know that when I was 14 months sober I didn't have any desire or thoughts of drinking.
My mistake was thinking I could "control" it if I started again.
Now I can't wait to get to the one year mark.
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Location: Southeast USA
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It does get better and for me it happens quit quickly. Every time I resist the urge to drink and choose to do something ANYTHING else I end up feeling better about who I am. Each time I feel pride and the thought that I DESERVE to be SOBER fills me to the brim. It's not easy but it's the best thing I've ever done for myself. Today I wake up excited for another sober day. I never want to go back where I was. It was a dark, miserable place. Hang on and you will get thru. Find some to make yourself feel happy. Watch a movie. Listen to music and let's dance the sobriety dance together!
Originally Posted by DorianLastname 
I'm on day 2. Just a few hours ago I was filled with optimism and was feeling great. Now I suddenly really want to drink and feel depressed.
Are emotional ups and downs normal at first?
I won't give in to it but it is very difficult. How best to deal with it?
In this state I'm afraid that if I stay sober, I'll end up being depressed all the time.
How does one actually feel after being sober for a longer period of time?
Are emotional ups and downs normal at first?
I won't give in to it but it is very difficult. How best to deal with it?
In this state I'm afraid that if I stay sober, I'll end up being depressed all the time.
How does one actually feel after being sober for a longer period of time?
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Originally Posted by hypochondriac
It's totally normal. Well if you call normal bursting into tears for no reason and wanting to kill someone a moment later...
I found the best way to deal with it was to just roll with it, it's just a ride. Recognise your feelings for what they are and say 'oh that's interesting' and move on. Don't let your emotions rule you and drive you to drink. Look up urge surfing.
I have been sober for nearly a year and a half now and believe me it gets calm. It is a transition but I was amazed at the strength of my emotions in the early days and my relative saneness now. It does get better x
I found the best way to deal with it was to just roll with it, it's just a ride. Recognise your feelings for what they are and say 'oh that's interesting' and move on. Don't let your emotions rule you and drive you to drink. Look up urge surfing.
I have been sober for nearly a year and a half now and believe me it gets calm. It is a transition but I was amazed at the strength of my emotions in the early days and my relative saneness now. It does get better
xI've been reading some stuff online in the meantime and as I understand, if you've been drinking heavily for a long time, your brain chemistry has adjusted to that. And if you quit, it needs time to re-adjust, which at first manifests as ups and downs. Eventually it'll get back to normal though.
I'm alright with that. I like how I used to be before I started drinking. And given that I've grown a lot as a person despite the drinking, I can only look forward to the new and improved me.
Knowing it'll pass makes it so much easier. I can now look at how I feel and don't really care about feeling bad for the time being.
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