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I'm New
Hello,
I am new to all of this and having a real problem even starting this process. i joined a few years ago and this is my 1st post. i was having a problem that i kicked but apparently not very well b/c i started again. i have been trying to stay clean but still dealing with the depression and sadness. i have lost everything (house, partner, vehicle, job) & i am terrified that i may mess up again & start using to numb what i am feeling.
this entire thing is so embarassing for me. i have (had) a great job! 2 kids, a good relationship, money, nice car, nice house. it is all gone now! it has been one thing after another for the past year. i can't catch a break.
i always feel judged and i don't even have the energy to put on an act like everything is ok! (i used to be very good at that - nobody ever knew anything was wrong) now i don't talk to anyone, my firends, family, nobody.....
i know everyone is going through something, but this has never happened to me before! I'm not handling it very well.
i don't even know if this is what i was suppsoed to do with this but... oh well .... (haha) thank you for listening.
any information or advice would be lovely!
Ready 4 my life back! - Ready4Help
I am new to all of this and having a real problem even starting this process. i joined a few years ago and this is my 1st post. i was having a problem that i kicked but apparently not very well b/c i started again. i have been trying to stay clean but still dealing with the depression and sadness. i have lost everything (house, partner, vehicle, job) & i am terrified that i may mess up again & start using to numb what i am feeling.
this entire thing is so embarassing for me. i have (had) a great job! 2 kids, a good relationship, money, nice car, nice house. it is all gone now! it has been one thing after another for the past year. i can't catch a break.
i always feel judged and i don't even have the energy to put on an act like everything is ok! (i used to be very good at that - nobody ever knew anything was wrong) now i don't talk to anyone, my firends, family, nobody.....
i know everyone is going through something, but this has never happened to me before! I'm not handling it very well.
i don't even know if this is what i was suppsoed to do with this but... oh well .... (haha) thank you for listening.
any information or advice would be lovely!
Ready 4 my life back! - Ready4Help
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Hi and Welcome,
I'm glad you're ready for help. It sounds like you have lost a lot in your life due to addiction, as many of us have and that you are motivated to stop. You can talk to us about anything, and we do understand how hard this is.
I'm glad you're ready for help. It sounds like you have lost a lot in your life due to addiction, as many of us have and that you are motivated to stop. You can talk to us about anything, and we do understand how hard this is.
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Join Date: Jun 2012
Posts: 1,393
Hello. Yes, this is what you are supposed to do. Good job for posting. Getting it out is good. Especially here where others know exactly what you are going through. The further you get away from the addiction, the depression will lessen. Especially when the guilt lifts. Check out urge surfing. It's a way to relax thru anxiety and mood swings. It has helped me so much! Try to be present. Do one thing at a time and focus on it. Hugs to you!
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Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Central America/Florida USA
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"i have been trying to stay clean but still dealing with the depression and sadness."
Does this mean you are still drinking? I know it sounds cliche, but stopping the alcohol intake is the most basic first step, and it's a big one. The self-analyzing, assessments, figuring out your place, friends, family, etc - that is something best dealt with once you've got some sobriety under your belt.
Sounds like you're going through this alone. Have you got a plan in place to quit? Have you thought about groups like AA, or perhaps Rational Recovery or another self-monitoring type plan? Sobriety starts with a plan, and taking small steps....
Does this mean you are still drinking? I know it sounds cliche, but stopping the alcohol intake is the most basic first step, and it's a big one. The self-analyzing, assessments, figuring out your place, friends, family, etc - that is something best dealt with once you've got some sobriety under your belt.
Sounds like you're going through this alone. Have you got a plan in place to quit? Have you thought about groups like AA, or perhaps Rational Recovery or another self-monitoring type plan? Sobriety starts with a plan, and taking small steps....
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,380
Hi ready4help 
everyone here knows how you feel - we understand - I think posting is a great step forward...you'll get a lot of advice and support here...I find that really helps ...especially in the early days
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everyone here knows how you feel - we understand - I think posting is a great step forward...you'll get a lot of advice and support here...I find that really helps ...especially in the early days
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