hi!
Glad you are here. You will find much support here. Keep moving forward. WE do recover.
to SR and here's to many more sober hours and days.
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: new boston nh
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dogs
well, i too would rather live in my car with dogs than in a castle without them. i have a whole zoo of rescue critters that i take good care of. i, however, tend to drink alone at night when all my chores are done and my husband is asleep.
i will bet i'd be a better caretaker if i didn't feel lousy when i woke up every day....
hopeful11
i will bet i'd be a better caretaker if i didn't feel lousy when i woke up every day....
hopeful11
ugh! Faith and reason
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: London
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Welcome to SR, hopeful! Congrats on day 2. In my first few days, I also had feelings of guilt, along with shame, anger, sadness and a whole host of other feelings. I figured that I'd been suppressing them with drink for so long that they were now coming to the surface all at once.
The feelings are fading with time and I find that taking positive recovery actions such as posting regularly on SR, going to AA meetings and talking to fellow recovering alcoholics also helps me to work through the torrent of emotions.
So I'd suggest being patient, waiting it out, posting on SR regularly and looking into some sort of local face-to-face support, be that counselling, AA, SMART meetings, LifeRing meetings or something else completely.
You may also want to start keeping a journal, as writing your feelings down on paper may give you some relief from them and put them into perspective.
The feelings are fading with time and I find that taking positive recovery actions such as posting regularly on SR, going to AA meetings and talking to fellow recovering alcoholics also helps me to work through the torrent of emotions.
So I'd suggest being patient, waiting it out, posting on SR regularly and looking into some sort of local face-to-face support, be that counselling, AA, SMART meetings, LifeRing meetings or something else completely.
You may also want to start keeping a journal, as writing your feelings down on paper may give you some relief from them and put them into perspective.
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Join Date: Jul 2013
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well, i don't really have a choice but to be patient, because i am not going to drink. i do keep a journal. i live in the back of beyond. i am waiting for some responses from women sobriety and a.a.
there's a group in the area called reformers anonymous, BUT it is connected to several fundamentalist christian churches--not that there's anything wrong with that. i, however, am not christian, so i am worried about being out of place.
thanks for the reply.
there's a group in the area called reformers anonymous, BUT it is connected to several fundamentalist christian churches--not that there's anything wrong with that. i, however, am not christian, so i am worried about being out of place.
thanks for the reply.
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Hi hopeful. These first few days are rough, but it will get better - we promise.
Louise is right - everything's coming to the surface now - but it's a healthy thing, even though it's painful. You're beginning a new life - the real you is emerging. You'll get past the guilt & remorse stage. It does help to talk about it - we've all been through it & we understand. You're doing great, hopeful.
Louise is right - everything's coming to the surface now - but it's a healthy thing, even though it's painful. You're beginning a new life - the real you is emerging. You'll get past the guilt & remorse stage. It does help to talk about it - we've all been through it & we understand. You're doing great, hopeful.
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Dallas, Texas
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Congratulations!
You have decided to do something wonderful for yourself. It is so fun when hours sober turn into days sober, then weeks sober, then months sober and eventually years. I am happy for you!
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Massachusetts
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Hopeful, asking for help and support does not make you "needy". I used to think that way as well; that asking for help made me "weak". But that kind of thinking just kept me drunk.
reading posts and responses to your posts will keep you accountable and help you feel cared for, which is something we all need.
Good luck on your journey and congrats on your sobriety.
reading posts and responses to your posts will keep you accountable and help you feel cared for, which is something we all need.
Good luck on your journey and congrats on your sobriety.
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Join Date: Dec 2006
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Hey..good to see you again on Day 2!! I find guilt a bit of a useless emotion...anger at my self? That I can sink my teeth into...cuz that motivates action on my part. Nevertheless, the whole gamut of emotions will find their way into your headspace. Say hello..wave goodbye : ) The best way to make amends for your past is staying sober in your now.
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Hi hopeful11,
Good job on day 2! Every day gets a little bit better, even if only for a few seconds.
One day you will feel better more than you feel worse.
And then one day you will feel guilty for eating a whole bag of gummy bears instead of feeling guilty about alcohol.
Hang in there!
Good job on day 2! Every day gets a little bit better, even if only for a few seconds.
One day you will feel better more than you feel worse.
And then one day you will feel guilty for eating a whole bag of gummy bears instead of feeling guilty about alcohol.
Hang in there!
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