Overcoming the embarassment
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Overcoming the embarassment
I'm just wondering if anyone else experiences deep embarassment over their past drinking?
I havent had a drink in over 6 months now, but I keep getting moments where i'l have a flashback to something i did when drunk or something i said while drunk and it really makes me cringe.
I use these moments to remind myself that its ok and that it doesnt ever have to happen again but it really sucks when it happens
I havent had a drink in over 6 months now, but I keep getting moments where i'l have a flashback to something i did when drunk or something i said while drunk and it really makes me cringe.
I use these moments to remind myself that its ok and that it doesnt ever have to happen again but it really sucks when it happens
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Yip.....I had a question the other day about this. I know what I did while drinking was wrong, but my great friends here at SR talked me off a ledge so to speak. Thats what I did while drunk, I am no longer drunk. "It is non of my business what they think" (love that line, thanks) just worry about yourself, live and let live, and move on. You can't change the past, but the future is near!!
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Yes, I get those moments as well... I try to replace that memory or thought w a positive one of how much better my life is today. I imagine that one day we may not think of them at all 
congrats on 6 months!!
congrats on 6 months!!
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Very new to sobriety, I have many times where I think of the things I did or said while drunk, stuff I would never have done sober. I started drinking partly to overcome shyness. More than embarassment I feel horrible guilt. The quilt only caused me to drink more and more over the years. I have not touched a drop in a little over three weeks and I am feeling some of the guilt lifting slightly.
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yep, i get hit by that sometimes, too. i'm working on looking at those awful moments (in addition to the good ones) as part of the path that got me here, and helped to make me who i am now. and, i gotta say, being here and sober and respecting myself fully for the first time that i can remember is a brilliant place to be!
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I think when and where we recall these moments are crucial. I don't think the past really serves us in the now..if our now is alright. You're doing great...6 months..wow! You can't do anything about the past..it's over. You make amends day by day staying sober. I think bringing up the past when we are entertaining the notion of drinking is brilliant though. I'm a big fan of staying in my now. I cannot do anything about my past or my future. My now is bloody fantastic though.
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I have started trying to make amends for some of them where I am able. It's hard to relive some of those memories because they are just so bloody awful and so far away from who I think I am today or was before I let alcohol hijack my personality (and morality). But the process of making amends---literally or figuratively---gives me some relief from the horrible guilt.
The others that I can't make amends for? Like some have mentioned, I keep them in my back pocket to remind me of exactly "how bad it was" and how I can never, ever touch alcohol again. It stings but, then again, better to be burned by the stove than to set the damn house on fire again
The others that I can't make amends for? Like some have mentioned, I keep them in my back pocket to remind me of exactly "how bad it was" and how I can never, ever touch alcohol again. It stings but, then again, better to be burned by the stove than to set the damn house on fire again
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