Living

I have shared this with one member of our Board in Private Message. I need prayers for my best friend.

Yesterday afternoon I went with her to her pyschologist appt. She admitted she needed help with alcohol and pill addiction. Unfortunately, she doesn't have insurance. She is being held in the ER at a local hospital until they can find a treatment center for her. She cannot leave for at least 72 hours.

Please pray for her as she is saying if she is not transferred to a detox/rehab after 72 hours, she is leaving asap.

I have been up now 28 hours and have an interview in 3 hours. I am going to take a nap to refresh, but please pray for my job opportunity and my friend.

Thank you in advance.

Living, but so tired

ersatzmatriarch

living...

you are a good friend. i'm sending my best thoughts out to you right now...

Dee74

I hope your friend gets the help she needs and that you get the job Living.

I commend your sense of service but remember we can't run on nothing - there's only so much we have in reserve, ok?

D

Nonsensical

You got this!

strawberryblond

Prayers and positive thoughts coming for you and your friend.

least

Prayers going up for you and your friend.

Anna

I wish you the best in this upcoming job interview, and I hope things work out for your friend. Even if things don't go the way you hope for your friend, it's alright.

Living

Interview went great, she even asked me to stay and meet the staff. It is for an office mgr with a Veterinarian. OMG - the cute animals I got to play with and the procedures I watched were wonderful. A human nurse that I am in school for might need to be switched to a Vet nurse. Left there feeling positive.

Went to ER to visit friend. Great News! A place has opened up for her and she is on her way to Rehab/Detox. She is really down after spending 24 hours locked down without a book, tv, or any communication except for me. The Nurse even told her not to cry?! Well since I am not aware of why this is happening, I am just thankful she is going to a great facility.

Today she is angry and in denial. Would rather figure it out on her own. Hopefully this will change in the next 24 hours.

Love you all!

Living

Help!!! I am sorry for sounding like a pitiful soul, but my dear friend is in a great facility. She should be thankful. Instead, I get an earful of how she doesn't have an Issue and is faking it to make it. I a so dissolutioned and pissed off right now. Going to bed.

Tomorrow, I will go see her Doctor if they will talk with me. I understand that without insurance, they will try to detox her and shuffle her out ASAP. If she does not get "IT" during her short stay, then I am afraid I will have to cut her out of my life. 30+ years of friendship down the drain. I already posted before how she called me a hypocrite, I gave her a couple of weeks and finally talked her in to going for treatment.

I am so at the end of my line. I need to take care of my own SOBRIETY, family, job status, school, etc... I do not need to be an enabaler to her. She needs to get it or I cannot be there for her.

Again, SO SORRY for venting to all of you.

quitforme79

Prayers sent your way living...and no apologies needed! That's what we are here for.

Living

My husband just left to work. I am able to cry now. No one thinks she can be saved. I hate it. If I can be saved, then so can she. She just has to admit and committ. She will not make it without the proper mind set.

I can only help her if she wants it. I am risking my own SOBRIETY for her tonight. I so want a glass of wine. NO, NO, NO. I had my husband take my keys with him to work. I cannot let anyone or anything get in my way. Just so DISSOLUTIONED right now. She will die if she doesn't not accept the blessings she has right now in treatment.

Sally3127

I am praying for your friend Living. But, you need to take care of yourself first and foremost.

Living

Thank you Sally. I am just not strong enough right now to deal with my new sobriety and her. I need to find a balance and if that means letting her go (she is in treatment= but does not acknowledge issues), then so be it.

Just so hard. I spent my life putting others first and it has to stop. SOBRIETY to me is most important.

Dee74

One thing I learned long ago Living is I can't save anyone but myself.

We can help people, we can pray for them, we can get them into great places - but the will to stay sober can;t be taught - it needs to be internal.

I really hope your friend finds that will, but whatever happens is up to her and God

Perhaps it's time for you to take a step back now and remember to give some of that love you have to yourself?

D

Living

Dee - thank you for everything. She is in a safe place, I am not. You and everyone who has been kind enough to respond knows that you cannot help another if you cannot help yourself.

Today I am sober, tomorrow I plan the same. I will deal with this issue, but tonight, I need sleep. I have so much to be grateful for and I truly love being SOBER.

Good night dear friends and hopefully tomorrow, I will not be in a pitty mode )

Dee74

rest well Living - you've earned it

D

FreeFall

Check your messages Living

Living

Thank you FreeFall. I just responded to your PM. All I can do is laugh and maintain. Want to cry out loud, but I am much stronger. Waiting for the next wave to hit LOL.

neferkamichael

Isis, who was and is and shall ever be
daughter of the earth and sky,
I honor you and sing your praises.
Glorious goddess of magic and light,
I open my heart to your mysteries.
Please help Living with her job oppurtunity.

Mighty mother, daughter of the Nile,
we rejoice as you join us with the rays of the sun.
Sacred sister, mother of magic,
we honor you,
she who is mother of the universe itself.
Please guide Livings friend to make the right choices.

Michael66

Well done Living. You are both in my prayers.

Look after yourself.

God bless +

Michael