I need to stop hurting my family.
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I need to stop hurting my family.
I think I have finally lost all trust from my husband. He has been so patient with me, but I feel if I don't completely take alcohol out of my life, that I will lose him and that scares me to death. My daughter is also starting to notice when I have had too much (which is every time I drink).
I have tried to stop many times, but I NEED to make this time count.
I have tried to stop many times, but I NEED to make this time count.
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If you are ready to stop drinking for good, then we're here to offer support.
It's really hard when we see the people in our lives losing faith and trust in us. But, you don't have to continue to live this way.
It's really hard when we see the people in our lives losing faith and trust in us. But, you don't have to continue to live this way.
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Hi anchorbird. There's no doubt in my mind that you can stop. I say that because I did, after drinking my whole life. I had to be ready - and it sounds like you're tired of the sad and unpredictable way you've been living. Do it for you - and everything else will fall into place. We are here to listen and help. 
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Welcome anchor congrats on wanting to make a change! I too had a fed up husband 8 weeks ago today was my bottom literally knocked myself out from a 5 foot fall. I too have daughters.
Today I am a happy ( most of the time) sober mommy and wife. SR has been more support than I could have ever imagined. Keep posting and good wishes to you
Today I am a happy ( most of the time) sober mommy and wife. SR has been more support than I could have ever imagined. Keep posting and good wishes to you
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Welcome anchor. Pushing through the cravings is tough, and a good start. Drinking was completely woven into the fabric of my life too, and I was fortunately able to quit before I lost my family and job, even though I did lose some trust from my wife. But the good news is that if you can truly dedicate yourself to sobriety, all of those wounds will heal over time. It won't be tomorrow, or next week - but a good solid track record of sobriety means not only a lot to you - but everyone around you. Keep reading and let us know how we can help.
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The first days of sobriety are the roughest, but you can do it. I am at 8 weeks and feel 100% better. Please continue with your desire for sobriety because when you feel better you will not want to go through it again.
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Welcome Anchorbird!
It sounds like you have all of the motivation you need to quit drinking. I, too, lost a lot of trust from my husband and I also have young kids. One drink always led to another and another...we know how that ends. Since this past fall I have had several failed attempts, but I am happy to tell you that today I finally have 30 days sober through the help of SR, AA, and an outpatient program. Every time I would have a slip I would start over at Day 1 thinking through my past mistake and what I would do differently this time to ensure success.
Best wishes to you, there is a ton of support here. Hugs, PG
It sounds like you have all of the motivation you need to quit drinking. I, too, lost a lot of trust from my husband and I also have young kids. One drink always led to another and another...we know how that ends. Since this past fall I have had several failed attempts, but I am happy to tell you that today I finally have 30 days sober through the help of SR, AA, and an outpatient program. Every time I would have a slip I would start over at Day 1 thinking through my past mistake and what I would do differently this time to ensure success.
Best wishes to you, there is a ton of support here. Hugs, PG
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Originally Posted by anchorbird 
I think I have finally lost all trust from my husband. He has been so patient with me, but I feel if I don't completely take alcohol out of my life, that I will lose him and that scares me to death. My daughter is also starting to notice when I have had too much (which is every time I drink).
I have tried to stop many times, but I NEED to make this time count.
I have tried to stop many times, but I NEED to make this time count.
Unless you do it for yourself, and yourself only...........it tends not to work. That is great you are considerate of your family, but why do YOU want to change? Why do you want to get sober? This sounds stupid, but take a paper and pen and write a list of some of the things you miss about your old, sober life. Who you were, the way you felt, and things like that. What are you now missing in your life due to your addiction? What is alcoholism currently robbing you of? If you make it about you, then the drive becomes stronger and you are more likely to succeed.
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Well, I made it through day one with the help of an AA meeting. I am SO glad that I went and it was nice waking up today feeling rested (although I sweat like crazy through the night). Here's to day 2!
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