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Old 05-31-2013, 12:14 PM
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Fridays here and so is temptation

Hello everyone,
I'm in need of support and advice.This week has been a tough one at work and stress level is through the roof.I am contemplating on getting a some pills and weed after work.The thought of it already makes me feel better inside.
Deep down I don't want to do it.Im on day 10 and don't want to fudge it up.....
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Old 05-31-2013, 12:25 PM
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You already know the answer - and you already know that while it might make you feel temporarily better, you will eventually feel worse. And you'll want more. How about making concrete plan to do something else relaxing instead? You could go to a movie, grab a good dinner, or a whole host of other things that not only will cost less, but not cause you to ruin your good work of 10 days sobriety.
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I can sympathize with you. Weekends are hard for me too sometimes... I also used drugs and alcohol as a "reward" for getting through a tough day. What else can you do to relax or make yourself feel better now that its almost over? For me there are alternatives... Not all of them are perfect (shopping, nice dinner, movie or book I love, a good jog or hike to get the endorphins going, a fancy coffee drink...) but they seem better than getting loaded at this point because I don't want to throw my time out the window either. Remember how hard it can be to start over. We are here for you!
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You have the whole weekend to unwind from your stressful week. I can understand the intense desire to use and make it go away. But the only thing that will really go away if you use is the 10 days you've worked so hard to attain.

Is it worth it for a moment's respite? No.
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Visualize the thought of you waking up tomorrow having not used at all, and how good you feel, and how now it is day 11.
That thought may make you feel better already.
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Originally Posted by stubbs View Post
Hello everyone, I'm in need of support and advice. This week has been a tough one at work and stress level is through the roof. I am contemplating on getting a some pills and weed after work. The thought of it already makes me feel better inside.

Deep down I don't want to do it. Im on day 10 and don't want to fudge it up.....
The substance may give you a few hours of "feeling good", but I'm guessing those few hours will be offset by many hours (if not days) of feeling like crap. Try to direct your thoughts away from substance use and start thinking about some things you can do sober that will feel good and be healthy.
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Just (don't) do it. Find some kind of distracting activity; exercise, post here, read a book whatever. You can do it (meaning not doing it). I'm working at home, my GF just left for a business meeting. A month ago I have a buzz by now (Its Friday!), but I don't. It gets easier with time and I do think there's something to be said for deeper spiritual work too, but whatever you can do to get through today and the weekend. I feel 'ya.
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Old 05-31-2013, 01:00 PM
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Wow that was quick support!Thanks to you all for the words of encouragement.It truly helps at this stage in my sobriety.I am going to do my best to fight it off.Sobriety is a tricky thing,I am becoming more aware what it actually is by all the reading I've been doing here at this great site.I haven't been sober for about 23 years.Thanks again guys
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I am contemplating on getting a some pills and weed after work.The thought of it already makes me feel better inside.
sometimes nothing convinces us more than
going back out yet one more time
I guess
if you are not ready then you are not ready

it was only after I got burned too many times
did I seek the desire to stay clean and sober

question
have you truly hit a bottom
you will know when you do
it's like a living hell

this can be of great help for one wishing to recover
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Old 05-31-2013, 01:56 PM
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No I have not hit bottom,I am a great functioning alcoholic.I never miss work or show up late.I do everything that I am counted on for also.That is what scares me.
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Some great advice here Stubbs.

There's no hope about it - you can stay clean and sober this weekend - it may not be comfortable at times, but it's the right thing to do.

you're in control, not your addiction.

We get stronger by facing new situations. This is a great opportunity to get strong

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Old 05-31-2013, 02:20 PM
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Thanks Dee!
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Old 05-31-2013, 02:24 PM
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I believe you can do it. I am! I want nothing more than to get a buzz. No that's a lie. I want sobriety More than a buzz! Looking forward to a sober night out on the town with my handsome hubby and darling son. Will say a prayer for you, too
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No I have not hit bottom,I am a great functioning alcoholic.I never miss work or show up late.I do everything that I am counted on for also.That is what scares me.
I highly recommend not hitting a really hard bottom if you can avoid it.

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you remind me of me

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No I have not hit bottom,I am a great functioning alcoholic.I never miss work or show up late.I do everything that I am counted on for also.That is what scares me.
you remind me of me (the early me that is)
I held the same job for 32 years and actually got my retirement

note
many of my drinking and using buddies from the job site
did not make it to retirement (due directly to their addictions)

if one is a real alcoholic and or addict
the chances are things will start to fall apart before too long
how long ?? hard to tell

if you can get sober before becoming more addicted
what a blessing that would be
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Well went out with the wife and ate some sushi and picked up some material for some home projects.Beat the beast this time
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