Angiekins3

So yesterday I finally got up the courage to ask someone to be my sponsor at a meeting. When the leader asked asked who is available I looked at the girls who raised their hands and there was someone that I enjoyed listening to speak. She is young and I just enjoyed her advice so I asked. It took everything in me to ask. I said would you be my temporary sponsor (this way if we didn't click I could find someone else) she said yes and then about 5 min later said she couldn't cause she was getting married. OK WHY raise your hand then Why offer yourself?? So she said Ill be happy to start the steps with you...but now I don't want to. I want to start the process with someone that is going to take me through the steps. Am I overreacting I don't want to share certain things with someone and then them not be available and start with someone else. I don't get why she raised her hand and I want to say something tonight but I am not sure how to. I just think I am gonna tell her what I said above that I would like to start with one person??
Any advice would be great cause this has gotten me in a pissy mood all of a sudden and I have a meeting in an hour. Grrrrrr!
Angie

ScottFromWI

You can't control her actions, good or bad. Wondering why she did it is pointless and will only cause you grief and stress. If you don't feel comfortable politely decline and ask someone else. You don't want to be uncomfortable with whomever will be helping you out.

neferkamichael

I myself hate the kind of person who thinks they have "power" over you because they become your sponsor. More times than once my sponsor wasn't available when I called or needed him, although most of the time he did return my calls sooner or later. Go with your gut. I just hope your sponsor isn't one of the overreacting kind. Rootin for ya.

EverySngleNight

She probably really was sincere about wanting to help. But, then she thought "oh crap, I'm planning a wedding and wouldn't be the best person right now." That was well intended IMO.

Angiekins3

Thanks guys I feel a bit better I believe her intentions were good. I just need to let this and so many things go ...that's why I need guidance !!!! lol
Thank you
Angie

ScottFromWI

Even if her intentions weren't good it really doesn't matter. Not "letting things go" I think is one of the reasons many of us drank anyway - to avoid having to do just that. All that should matter to you is your recovery and there's absolutely nothing wrong with just politely telling her you'd rather find someone who will be a more permanent sponsor.

Angiekins3

Letting go is HUGE HUGE HUGE problem for me. Its one thing I cant wait to learn how to change!

Grungehead

I've asked people to be my sponsor before and they declined. Both times it was an old timer and they said they were sponsoring so many people they were afraid they wouldn't be available enough. Both times they offered to sponsor me temporarily until I found a permanent sponsor. It sounds like she wanted to sponsor you and then realized that she wouldn't have the time to be available as often as she would like. That's just my take on it.