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Old 05-14-2013, 04:38 PM
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Originally Posted by ScottFromWI View Post
Granted I don't specifically hang out in bars or in situations where the sole purpose of the event is to drink, but work meetings and gatherings are not of that nature.
Maybe not, but if you're in, say, sales, drinking at a bar is sometimes "part" of the sale pitch.
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Old 05-14-2013, 04:59 PM
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Originally Posted by choublak View Post
Maybe not, but if you're in, say, sales, drinking at a bar is sometimes "part" of the sale pitch.
True, but you don't have to drink alcohol. You can buy your customers drinks without buying one for yourself.
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Old 05-14-2013, 05:20 PM
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Quitting is never going to be easy. Perhaps if your work/social life is integrated with alcoholic environments (bars/restaurants/cafes), which, let's face it is the situation for most of us; then, it can be looked at as part of the recovery. I hope that makes sense. What I'm essentially saying is we are all going to have to face the reality of social gatherings at some points. Complete isolation and segregation could also have detrimental effects.

Look at it as coming part n' parcel with the recovery (easier said than done, I know). Yet, it will be very beneficial in the long term.

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Old 05-14-2013, 05:37 PM
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Originally Posted by choublak View Post
I'm curious, what do you do about mandatory work-related functions (like a company dinner at a restaurant where there is an open bar, for example) where alcohol is involved?
When your company (or any other company for that matter) buys you dinner throws an open bar, trust me, it's NOT mandatory. Again, trust me on that one. Need I explain further? LOL.

The alcoholic mind inside us is always looking for ways to get away with drinking. "The company is MAKING US", the voice says. "We don't have a choice!", the voice says. Gimme a break, we do too!!!
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Old 05-14-2013, 05:44 PM
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It may look like everyone has a drinking problem but I really doubt it.

If it was 'normal' to have a drinking problem, there'd be a lot less stigma and a lot more money and resources thrown at the problem.

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Old 05-14-2013, 05:52 PM
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I believe the majority of people can have a drink or two and then stop. Those people do not have a drinking problem.

I am not one of those people. That is why I quit drinking. Because I am not like normal people. I am a drunk. A miserable drunk actually.
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Old 05-14-2013, 06:04 PM
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Originally Posted by choublak View Post
Maybe not, but if you're in, say, sales, drinking at a bar is sometimes "part" of the sale pitch.
I was in sales for 10 years, big company, Fortune 500 clients. Did business meetings all the time. Never once in my career as a salesman or a sales manager was drinking considered part of our pitch. My main clients were PR & Advertising firms, too, and they do a lot of drinking. Not on the playing field though. In the real business world, sales are made when numbers and services match up. Unless you are trying to sell a 3rd World Guerilla dictator 1500 machine guns under the cover of darkness, a salesperson is not closing deals at a bar.
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Old 05-14-2013, 10:16 PM
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Plenty of people drink and drink a lot, as far as I can tell. Sometimes I think that I am more susceptible to the negative effects of alcohol than some of them. I have to stop drinking, but maybe they won't be as impacted by what they drink as I am by what I drank, and they won't get to the point I got to, even if they drink more than I.

OTOH there are plenty of people around me in my closest relationships and in my extended social circle that do not drink (either never did drink at all or much, or who have sucessfully stopped). And I feel lucky in that way because it means that I will have plenty of socializing where I won't be the only one not drinking. (There will be plenty of other drinkers around, though.)

When it comes to work parties and after-work happy hours, though, they all drink and many of them drink a lot. They don't know my personal drinking habits. I've had a drink or two around them before. I often skip out on happy hours anyway so if I don't drink they will just assume that's why I often don't go to them. I'll probably just say, "I'm just going to have water or a soda, I'm not a big drinker." Seriously, I will be saying that.
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Old 05-14-2013, 10:57 PM
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One of those huge alcohol superstores just opened in my city... You know the kind, with aisles and aisles of every kind of wine and booze -- at a discount, no less. The idea is you go there and load up a very large volume. There was a big insert in the paper, and I have heard people talking about it as "an event." And all I could think was: this store would not exist if a lot of people did not have a problem with alcohol...
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