New. First day. Terrified. Was so sick AGAIN today from drinking. Trying to reach out. I can't afford it monetarily or physically. I feel hopeless and like a failure. Why can't I just stop? |
Hi and welcome thetimeiznow :) There's absolutely no reason to feel terrified here - you're among friends :) why can't I stop? Believe me I asked myself that same question over and over for years. What have you tried to help you stop, so far? D |
I've tried making a pact with people. But they cant hold me accountable. I do as I please. Selfish. I've tried willing myself to stop. My words mean nothing to my husband. He told me I am so weak. Hmmm, why yes I am. But I know it upsets him, disappoints. I'm disappointed, too. |
Sounds like you're in the same situation many of us faced before. If you can, please use this forum to vent your feelings about your current situation. As you do so, you may well find that things become a little clearer and then you may be able to glimpse the light at the end of the tunnel. And if you really don't feel like writing any more, just read through some of the threads to see if there's anything that's helpful to you. |
If you are an alcoholic, it's not a matter of weakness, it's a disease which some folks with incredible will power in other areas of their lives have been unable to overcome with the unaided will. AA is full of people who have achieved great things out in the world, but can't seem to beat alcohol. There are a few options you could try to see what's going on. If anyhting on the list works, then thats as far as you need to go. Least palatable option (for me) is left till last, when all else fails. Talk with doctor Refer to counsellor - controlled drinking Continue with counsellor - harm minimisation Continue with counsellor - total abstinance Refer to treatment centre detox - not much therapy Refer to treatment center detox and comprehensive program Back to counsellor for relapse prevention strategies Buy self help book and learn more about avoiding triggers Consider lifestyle change through available long term recovery program Maybe try something i haven't thought of. Try AA - last resort. A very helpful counsellor took me through a list like this and let me choose. I picked the least painful looking options, starting with controlled drinking. For me, nothing worked and some of the programs around today were not around then. Maybe something on the list will work for you. |
Welcome - we all been there I promise,it's tough but you can do it! |
:welcome I was in your position once. Couldn't keep on drinking and couldn't stop drinking. I was stuck in a bad place. But with the help of my counselor and this site I've been sober now for over three years. You can do this. Do you have a plan to stop drinking? |
So far I've told my psychiatrist and my BFF and my husband to provide some accountability. My next step is a counselor who specializes in substance abuse. Then some aa classes. I cannot believe how sick I got and still feel from drinking too much Saturday. How do I forget these times and go right back at it? Puzzling. |
Hi thetimeiznow. :) We're so glad you're here with us - we all understand how you're feeling. I agree that drinking is not the result of being weak willed - or a character flaw. I fell back on it many times, even after disastrous consequences (dui's, etc.) Each time, I was determined to use willpower to just have 'a few'. When I came to SR I finally realized there would never be a time when I could control the outcome once I picked up. I had no off switch, and there'd never be 'a few'. My only option was to never touch it. In the end, I was so miserable that I had to admit it was never fun anymore - it only brought me pain and devastation. You won't be missing a thing - we promise. :) |
There's a lot about addiction that is puzzling.. But the 'solution' is simple, get and stay sober. Not easy, just about as complex as the behavior itself. I'm glad you're looking for answers, counseling is a great start.. that's what really helped solidify my recovery. As to the "why" of it, I really don't think anyone knows for sure, but even still, it's possible to recover from. |
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