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Old 04-30-2013, 05:42 AM
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Mourning loss

Really freaking sad today. The effects of my drinking and drugging are still moving forward like a freight train. They have taken just about everything that matters to me.

The bridge up ahead is not out though. I will be fine.

Guess I will just take today and allow myself to mourn. Not fight the sadness of loss but try to embrace it as a healthy delineator if I can.

I have a lot of work to do today so I will focus on that.
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Old 04-30-2013, 07:04 AM
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Sorry you are sad today Weasel. I think, however, that it is a good idea to feel the sadness rather then to bury and ignore it. That never works. I've had a rough road as well as of late and I'm staying focused on how much worse it would be if I was drinking. I hope you find something to do today to take care of you Sending you big hugs!
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Sorry to hear you are sad today but you are wise to let yourself feel it. Focus on all the positive changes you've made & are making. Hugs to you
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Old 04-30-2013, 07:13 AM
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Originally Posted by Weasel1966 View Post

The bridge up ahead is not out though. I will be fine.
Hugs Weasel, I'm borrowing the above quote for my tool box. As uncomfortable as some days are, it's a blessing we came through with our feelings intact.
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Old 04-30-2013, 10:28 AM
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Old 04-30-2013, 11:59 AM
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You cannot change the past and we shouldn't mourn a future that hasn't happend yet .

Who you are today and the decisions you make today is all that we can do .

Sometimes the truths we confront in recovery are a chain dragging us forwards through areas we denied or refused to acknowledge during our "madness" ..

One day at a time , one foot infont of the other and see where we go ..

Big hug , M
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Old 04-30-2013, 12:04 PM
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Sorry you are having a sad day, did something particular happen? I haven't been on much, although I need to be. You are always here to support envy one else, sending you hugs Ken!!
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Old 04-30-2013, 05:06 PM
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F u c k loss. I will be just fine. I need to say what will hurt him. Not me. I been hurt before.

Have a good night folks.

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Old 04-30-2013, 05:29 PM
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In the long run....is saying hurtful words going to help YOU heal and move forward?

You do what you think is best, but don't drop yourself down to his level...You are better than this and are truly the winner....if it's a property dispute, let your real estate specialist lawyer do the talking and hit hard in the wallet....(I did this in my divorce and it was most satisfying to live well in the aftermath).

please know that you are in my thoughts....I've got Theresa watching out for you...even though you are alive and kicking! xxooxj
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Old 04-30-2013, 05:40 PM
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Fandy... No words from me are ever to be hurtful. ... Expressive yes... Hurtful never.

I am frustrated because I see what could have been. ....

I will be just fine. I am going through what it is. I accept that. Just cannot believe that this is happening.

I am passionate in my devotion. To put that aside ... Well .. Well...

Things are way more real than ever... And that's ok.
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Old 04-30-2013, 05:50 PM
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Sending some love out to you K. I've been there too. Glad you are here talking about it rather than isolating. Yes, it will all be fine at some point - but what a painful journey.
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Old 04-30-2013, 05:55 PM
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H... Thank you.

This has been so f..u.. Difficult.

Tomorrow will be better.

I thought it would be a few months but it will be sooner.

Heading to watch tv. Night.
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