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Old 04-27-2013, 01:13 PM
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Triky you can do this, we know you can. You're right - start over and never give up. This is Day 2 - hope you're feeling good.
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Old 04-27-2013, 01:16 PM
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Thanks, Dee, Sasha, no time , but I may later
triky glad u r back, go sign in! 24 club.
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Old 04-28-2013, 05:22 AM
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Hey buddy... Hope you are well. Check in.
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Old 04-28-2013, 06:57 AM
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Thanks to all of you from the bottom of my heart. I will be checking in daily , not sure how yet. Probably in the April 2013 Class or with a new thread. Good Sunday here with the grandkids. God Bless.
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Old 04-28-2013, 07:40 AM
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You didn't fail if you've resolved to try again. You only fail when you give up trying.

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Old 04-28-2013, 07:43 AM
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You didn't fail if you've resolved to try again. You only fail when you give up trying.

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Thank you for these words, I find them very encouraging. I drank yesterday evening, after 17 days sober...
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Old 04-28-2013, 07:46 AM
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Missing for a day , tryin to find words. One word is all I needed, failed, then another two, start over , I will. Pen to paper. Write it down, what worked, what didn't. Never give up , never ever. God Bless
Thank you for your honesty Ricky. I am also on day one again. I hope you feel better soon.
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Old 04-28-2013, 07:48 AM
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When you want to succeed, don't look at missteps, only look ahead. When you tread a rocky path uphill, there are sure to be some slips and stumbles, until the path smooths out.

Have a wonderful day with the grandbabies! This is a new day, and here you are Good going, keep going, and lean on your friends when you need to.
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Old 04-28-2013, 07:49 AM
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Thank you for these words, I find them very encouraging. I drank yesterday evening, after 17 days sober...
But the world didn't end, did it?

But what DID happen, is that you woke up this morning wiser, with greater resolve and the knowledge that you CAN change your life. 17 days is not just "toughing it out". 17 days is the beginning of the path to real and lasting change. Your 17 days should leave you with no doubt about your ability to make it 18 days, then 19 days, then 20, then....

You see what I'm getting at?

Strength, Calm, Courage Sobreia!
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Old 04-28-2013, 08:03 AM
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But the world didn't end, did it?

But what DID happen, is that you woke up this morning wiser, with greater resolve and the knowledge that you CAN change your life. 17 days is not just "toughing it out". 17 days is the beginning of the path to real and lasting change. Your 17 days should leave you with no doubt about your ability to make it 18 days, then 19 days, then 20, then....

You see what I'm getting at?

Strength, Calm, Courage Sobreia!
Thank you again Troae, it really moves me to get such kind support on here. I find it hard to tell family and friends that I want to quit permanently. When I say I am "staying away from alcohol", the reaction is often that people try to downplay my problem (partly because they don't know the full extent, but I think it also makes them feel uncomfortable) and I am of course easily persuaded to downplay it too. I suppress memories of all the shameful embarrassing things I've done and said when drunk, and how I've jeopardised my physical/mental health and life, because remembering them creates so much anxiety. Therefore it is hard to admit the extent of my problem even to myself - and as long as I don't do this I can't admit it to others and I can't, with honesty and resolve, say "I want to quit drinking permanently", and as long as I don't I won't be able to stay sober... It is a vicious circle... Sorry for the long erratic reply, my mind is all over the place today. Was still drunk when I woke up this morning.
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Old 04-28-2013, 08:15 AM
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Thank you again Troae, it really moves me to get such kind support on here. I find it hard to tell family and friends that I want to quit permanently. When I say I am "staying away from alcohol", the reaction is often that people try to downplay my problem (partly because they don't know the full extent, but I think it also makes them feel uncomfortable) and I am of course easily persuaded to downplay it too. I suppress memories of all the shameful embarrassing things I've done and said when drunk, and how I've jeopardised my physical/mental health and life, because remembering them creates so much anxiety. Therefore it is hard to admit the extent of my problem even to myself - and as long as I don't do this I can't admit it to others and I can't, with honesty and resolve, say "I want to quit drinking permanently", and as long as I don't I won't be able to stay sober... It is a vicious circle... Sorry for the long erratic reply, my mind is all over the place today. Was still drunk when I woke up this morning.
#1: Don't ever apologize for stating how you feel. That's what this place is for.

I fully get what you're going through with family and friends. Always trying to talk you out of it, always trying to convince you that you don't have a problem. Guess what? They're not the judge of that. You are. Period. I've come to the conclusion that the vast majority of their behavior is intended to mask their guilt over own consumption habits.

Here's a trick that I've been having a lot of fun with lately. I call it, "Hiding my NOT drinking". I simply get a handy stash of non-alcoholic beverages that LOOK like they could be regular booze. Iced tea is great, but I know how you Brits just LOATHE iced tea! :-) Apple juice works, or cranberry juice if you're a wine drinker. If you're in charge of the pouring, just keep your glass full of your non-alcoholic beverage of choice, and no one will be the wiser.

I've prepared entire dinner parties with a glass of non-alcoholic grape juice in my hand whilst everyone else imbibed. It never even becomes a topic of conversation.

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Old 04-28-2013, 08:41 AM
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#1: Don't ever apologize for stating how you feel. That's what this place is for. I fully get what you're going through with family and friends. Always trying to talk you out of it, always trying to convince you that you don't have a problem. Guess what? They're not the judge of that. You are. Period. I've come to the conclusion that the vast majority of their behavior is intended to mask their guilt over own consumption habits. Here's a trick that I've been having a lot of fun with lately. I call it, "Hiding my NOT drinking". I simply get a handy stash of non-alcoholic beverages that LOOK like they could be regular booze. Iced tea is great, but I know how you Brits just LOATHE iced tea! :-) Apple juice works, or cranberry juice if you're a wine drinker. If you're in charge of the pouring, just keep your glass full of your non-alcoholic beverage of choice, and no one will be the wiser. I've prepared entire dinner parties with a glass of non-alcoholic grape juice in my hand whilst everyone else imbibed. It never even becomes a topic of conversation. Peace.
Troae, you are being so incredibly helpful! Thank you ever so much. Am actually Swedish, have lived in London for the past five years, and moved back home a couple of weeks ago, having finally admitted to myself I can't deal with my problems on my own but need family and close friends around. So iced tea is OK:-) The idea of hiding the not-drinking is genius!
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Old 04-28-2013, 10:59 AM
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Well... I would say you have a good number of people that care about you here. Me being one of them. Good to see you here today.
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Old 04-28-2013, 05:38 PM
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Me too. I care. I still have insane dreams almost every night. Fight and fight hard.. It's all we can do.
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Old 04-29-2013, 05:01 AM
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Omnom , you go girl. Thanking all responders , I am deeply grateful
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I have got to tell you , my supporters , you are trully the best. I'm not were I want to be but closer it seems . I have more good days than bad. I have met some wonderful people here. If I hadn't found SR I wouldn't be making the progress I've made thus far. Maybe some of you were right. I need more , a better plan , NA , AA , more period. One day I will be there but not yet. Never quit trying , never ever. God Bless
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Old 05-11-2013, 05:53 AM
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Never give up giving up....

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Old 05-11-2013, 06:02 AM
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I'm too new for any wisdom - but I'm glad you are back!
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Old 05-11-2013, 08:24 PM
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I did my first NA meeting today . I had the spirit going in but was little disappointed with the format. It was in a cafeteria and I couldn't hear. I got a couple numbers. I will be Adding meeting to my Big Plan
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Old 05-11-2013, 08:34 PM
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Hey Riky, always thinking about you, my friend. Glad you're trying to add some new things to your plan to be clean and sober. Also so glad you are not giving up because you will beat this. Sorry NA wasn't as good as it could have been but maybe you can try other meetings if there are some around you? I have gone to NA meetings as an alcoholic and have found them very helpful because they follow the same format. We also have many in our AA meeting who are not alcoholics but chemically dependent on other substances. In any regard, good to see you online tonight and a big hug coming your way!
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