bigheadsilva

I'm a drunk, constantly drinking.
I have lost my girlfriend and privileges to my son.
I am only 21 years old and this has grown to be a major disease and downfall for me.
I feel super depressed and I need a helping hand, I know I have to push and live for myself. but when I know I need help. I need and want it. I am struggling and failing. I want my life and my family back.
I hate feeling like a piece of crap and having the ones I love hate me.
honestly I have no idea how this will help , but a shot is worth taking even if I miss. I don't want a reason to feel weak .

help please.....

Coldfusion

Welcome, Silva!

You've come to the right place for help to find a life without alcohol...

NevarCiots

If you are a fellow mma fan I like the reference ^^

I know, drinking and constant boozing puts us in not-so-good spots. RARELY have I had an honest nice night of intoxication. I have had good evenings with alcohol but the good time became less and less frequent.

That is why you are here. Why I am here. Keep up with us and just take steps in bettering yourself. Dont you feel like you have no choice but to stop? I did.

bigheadsilva

I cant seem to find out how to get help...

Dee74

Hi Bigheadsilva

what have you tried so far?

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bigheadsilva

I feel the need to stop, its actually doing it.
I just feel so weak, I see what I have to do. it just doesn't happen

bigheadsilva

honestly. nothing so far..
im finally coming to the realization that im in a hole. a deep one

Coldfusion

I ended up unable to quit, and so I checked myself into detox. This was followed by 90 AA meetings in 90 days, work with a sponsor, and lots of time here at SR.

NevarCiots

A deep hole? Welcome! Misery, anguish, tension and depression. They become your friends. For a while. This common friend you and I share bigheadsilva keeps on messing our lives up. Me, alcohol was a good buddy of mine from 8pm to 1am. Next morning im like "dude, ok, you have to leave" but he is around ALL DAY! Even until 6pm.

This liquid friend has to go man. Start from the beginning. Got to cut this person out of your life.

Thats right, I said person. View this that way.

bigheadsilva

I know checking myself into some sort of place will help ALOT!
I've just been noticing that I have to pay for stuff like that.
or maybe I'm just not looking correctly. finding a place is one of the main things I need help with.

Dee74

Coming here is a good start - there's lots of support and ideas

There's many different approaches and methods of recovery around too - here's some links to some of the main players, for you to look at:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html

I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach.

There is a way out - there is life after we stop drinking...I stopped after 2o years...I was a daily all day drinker by the end...

it takes some change and some effort but it's not impossible...I think it's probably harder to keep drinking.

Glad you've found us

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bigheadsilva

i feel you on that. its like an enemy i call my best friend. but all that person is doing is dragging me down.
but i still fall back to them when i feel the need. cutting it out of my life is so hard to me. i can stay strong for a few hours, then i cave. i don't know how to beat that.
im trying to work out to stay occupied. but i find myself craving a drink to relieve what i just did with my body ..
ugh... i just don't know what im doing wrong, even tho i know its drinking when im down .. but at the same time i enjoy the company, its like im in a endless hall of mirrors and my reflection is a bottle...

NevarCiots

Dee74 has it right! If you work now, tell your employer you need some days of absence for treatment and a few days of detox. My employer did.

You wake up, you FINALLY have clarity to deal with your family problems TRUST ME. You wake up not dehydrated starving for water TRUST ME. I never had an appetite and went all day not eating. Dizzy, tired all day yuck!

You WILL feel a change from not drinking. You WILL be happy because of it. Trust me.

NevarCiots

Oh man. This sounds like a relative or a girlfriend you have had your whole life. Its so hard to just let alcohol go. I understand.

A detox clinic is free here in New Mexico. Try to find something similar. They give you food, meds to stave of the alcohol withdraws.

This is very serious man. Keep calm, deep breaths and, what has worked for me in the past wonders, just take a walk. Come back, tell us how it felt, we respond.

least

Admitting there is a problem and reaching out for help is the first step in solving it. I'm glad you found us and joined the family.

Pete55

If costs are a issue with getting help right away, then I may have to suggest AA. There is a saying I heard at coffe after a meeting from the rooms of AA,
"it's free because we already paid the price through our drinking".
And,
"It's the first drink that does the damage"

Go to a few meetings till you find one you are comfortable with. At least that will keep you occupied, and stay sober.
And keep coming here to, let us know how it's all going, you are helping us to.

Lyoness

Welcome to SR! You have taken the first step, realizing you have a problem. And a second step, coming here and reaching out for help. Just keep taking one small step at a time, you don't have to solve everything at once. Check out local AA meetings. And check the links Dee gave, there are free rehabs available. Take care.

Richierich777

I think anyone can stop. You read stories here and see it always in the news. Determination is the key. I went to free AA meetings everyday and sometimes twice. Before work, after work. Then I promised to do the 12 steps and I have. I do this everyday because I am an alcoholic.

If someone can run 52 marathons in 52 weeks, I think I can stop drinking for a day. Then tomorrow is another day.