Introducing myself
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: London UK
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Introducing myself
I’m “Getting On” both in age and in trying to make some progress on emotional issues. I experience a number of compulsions and addictions of varying degrees of severity. For many years overeating has been a deeply entrenched problem. Now I’m older it’s really starting to show in obesity etc. And a constant preoccupation with food and eating. But it’s been so much part of me since childhood that often I am unconscious of it. Just eat, eat, eat.
Creeping up are a cluster of other issues, not least alcohol consumption.
I have made some progress but not really secured any long-lasting gains, so feel like I’m going round in circles. I have learned that dieting is not an answer to overeating, and I have had some times when I’ve been relatively “clean”. Sadly it doesn’t take much stress to get me running back to my quick mood changers.
I’m quite clear that behind all this are co-dependency issues because of my childhood. Dealing with those is the key. I have some problems dealing with my own grown-up children. Need to learn to set boundaries and find some personal power.
It is good that I see so clearly the co-dependency in me, how that leads to emotional pain and how I blot that out. But also it is possible (likely) that having understood it I won’t do anything practical to bring about change.
I have a very strong tendency to avoid contact with others (except superficially). I’m working on it. Posting here is a small step forward, it’s exactly the kind of thing I’d normally avoid.
I expect I’ll post about co-dependency issues and maybe even blog. Seems like it might help. I was glad to find this site. Best wishes to everyone here.
Creeping up are a cluster of other issues, not least alcohol consumption.
I have made some progress but not really secured any long-lasting gains, so feel like I’m going round in circles. I have learned that dieting is not an answer to overeating, and I have had some times when I’ve been relatively “clean”. Sadly it doesn’t take much stress to get me running back to my quick mood changers.
I’m quite clear that behind all this are co-dependency issues because of my childhood. Dealing with those is the key. I have some problems dealing with my own grown-up children. Need to learn to set boundaries and find some personal power.
It is good that I see so clearly the co-dependency in me, how that leads to emotional pain and how I blot that out. But also it is possible (likely) that having understood it I won’t do anything practical to bring about change.
I have a very strong tendency to avoid contact with others (except superficially). I’m working on it. Posting here is a small step forward, it’s exactly the kind of thing I’d normally avoid.
I expect I’ll post about co-dependency issues and maybe even blog. Seems like it might help. I was glad to find this site. Best wishes to everyone here.
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: CAPE COD, MA
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Welcome, it's so good that you have insight to you/our problems. It was surprising when I learned that alcohol, food and so on were only the tip of the iceberg. AA helped to see the underlining causes, feelings which included anxiety, fear, anger, resentments, insecurity and on and on. After years of work it's great to be comfortable in my own skin, most of the time. One day at a time. BE WELL
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
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We have an ongoing thread about codependency. It's in the daily support forum. Take a look.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...part-26-a.html
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