Make it stop!
Make it stop!
I feel that I am scum. Don't like myself. Returning after a 2 month relapse. I made it to 2 weeks last time. That seems to be be give-in point, I would like to change that, but I'm not having a whole lot of confidence that I can. I feel like a failure. I don't think I have persevered in anything I have ever set out to do. I start to envy "normal drinkers" and think I should be able to do it too and that I'm losing out on something. I am frustrated for continuing to drink and lose control of my behaviors and thoughts. I wish I could be normal and healthy and stay that way. I wish I could drink like a normal person. In my head, for some reason it is so much fun! But really, it doesn't usually end up that way. Made a jerk out of myself again last night. Pretty majorly. sigh. I am so full of anger! And so many other negative emotions... Anxiety, fear, sadness, remorse... I am starting to get tension lines between my eyebrows. My memory is pretty shot. I am a mess.
My husband hasn't spoken to me in a couple of weeks until recently, just to tell me I am manipulative and have my head up my @ss. Complaining that when I am drinking, he can't even hold a simple conversation with me. Now, I want to be angry about that, for speaking to me so disrespectfully, but he's probably right. It's hard to hear yourself described like that. Our relationship is extremely volatile. A roller coaster ride for the last 10 years. Don't live together anymore. It often "drives" me to drink, but EVERYTHING drives me to drink. Who am I kidding? I drink when I'm happy, when I'm sad, angry, bored...
Daily, in my head, It's this constant obsession, nagging me, constant fight and internal argument, and constantly changing my mind back and forth whether or not to drink, as if the facts had changed somehow. It never EVER stops! All day, every day!
My husband hasn't spoken to me in a couple of weeks until recently, just to tell me I am manipulative and have my head up my @ss. Complaining that when I am drinking, he can't even hold a simple conversation with me. Now, I want to be angry about that, for speaking to me so disrespectfully, but he's probably right. It's hard to hear yourself described like that. Our relationship is extremely volatile. A roller coaster ride for the last 10 years. Don't live together anymore. It often "drives" me to drink, but EVERYTHING drives me to drink. Who am I kidding? I drink when I'm happy, when I'm sad, angry, bored...
Daily, in my head, It's this constant obsession, nagging me, constant fight and internal argument, and constantly changing my mind back and forth whether or not to drink, as if the facts had changed somehow. It never EVER stops! All day, every day!
There are a lot of free or low cost clinics around - if there's one in your local area you might get some medical advice there?
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You;re not scum either. You just haven't found a way to make recovery permanent yet.
What's your support like NotSoIvory?
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What's your support like NotSoIvory?
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Don't have a whole lot of support. My immediate family lives with me tends to enable me a lot. When I don't drink, I tend to be a little antisocial, and they like to sit outside and smoke and chat. My brother drinks nearly every day. Last time, I asked him to quit for the sake of my recovery, since he lives in my home. He drank more covertly after that. My husband said he would be there for me, but isn't really. I think he means well, but he just doesn't seem to have much time for me and he doesn't fully understand. My mom was encouraging when I asked her for her support last time, reminding me how much money I was saving and such. I have this site. I keep telling myself I should attend the Monday women's meeting.
I could of written this a few months ago. I hated myself so much when I drank. I hated that everyone else could go out and be normal but I couldn't. All I know is while things haven't magically fixed themselves since I quit, they have gotten a whole lot better. I don't wake up hating myself anymore. And it feels good. There is a ton of support here, and it really makes you feel by so alone. Glad your here
I feel that I am scum. Don't like myself. Returning after a 2 month relapse. I made it to 2 weeks last time. That seems to be be give-in point, I would like to change that, but I'm not having a whole lot of confidence that I can. I feel like a failure. I don't think I have persevered in anything I have ever set out to do. I start to envy "normal drinkers" and think I should be able to do it too and that I'm losing out on something. I am frustrated for continuing to drink and lose control of my behaviors and thoughts. I wish I could be normal and healthy and stay that way. I wish I could drink like a normal person. In my head, for some reason it is so much fun! But really, it doesn't usually end up that way. Made a jerk out of myself again last night. Pretty majorly. sigh. I am so full of anger! And so many other negative emotions... Anxiety, fear, sadness, remorse... I am starting to get tension lines between my eyebrows. My memory is pretty shot. I am a mess.
My husband hasn't spoken to me in a couple of weeks until recently, just to tell me I am manipulative and have my head up my @ss. Complaining that when I am drinking, he can't even hold a simple conversation with me. Now, I want to be angry about that, for speaking to me so disrespectfully, but he's probably right. It's hard to hear yourself described like that. Our relationship is extremely volatile. A roller coaster ride for the last 10 years. Don't live together anymore. It often "drives" me to drink, but EVERYTHING drives me to drink. Who am I kidding? I drink when I'm happy, when I'm sad, angry, bored...
Daily, in my head, It's this constant obsession, nagging me, constant fight and internal argument, and constantly changing my mind back and forth whether or not to drink, as if the facts had changed somehow. It never EVER stops! All day, every day!
My husband hasn't spoken to me in a couple of weeks until recently, just to tell me I am manipulative and have my head up my @ss. Complaining that when I am drinking, he can't even hold a simple conversation with me. Now, I want to be angry about that, for speaking to me so disrespectfully, but he's probably right. It's hard to hear yourself described like that. Our relationship is extremely volatile. A roller coaster ride for the last 10 years. Don't live together anymore. It often "drives" me to drink, but EVERYTHING drives me to drink. Who am I kidding? I drink when I'm happy, when I'm sad, angry, bored...
Daily, in my head, It's this constant obsession, nagging me, constant fight and internal argument, and constantly changing my mind back and forth whether or not to drink, as if the facts had changed somehow. It never EVER stops! All day, every day!
I had a lot of those same negative emotions right before I quit drinking. It took about 6 weeks to get some relief. 2 weeks isn't nothing. I have tried to quit smoking several times and always relapse. Each time I get a little further because I am started to learn where the landmines are.
Goose, What is NSI? I much prefer to think that I have what it takes to stop somewhere inside of me, rather than I am incapable of doing it without medical help. I am not sure what sets me apart from another alcoholic that has been able to quit with a good support system rather than one that needs medical help?
NSI = not so ivory
I don't think there needs to be a distinction.
I think everyone should consult a medical professional. Not everyone has problems but detox can sometimes be problematic and none of us know beforehand which way we're likely to go.
I think everyone needs support too - whether it's AA or some other recovery group, or counseling , or SR - recovery is about more than just managing physical symptoms.
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I am not sure what sets me apart from another alcoholic that has been able to quit with a good support system rather than one that needs medical help?
I think everyone should consult a medical professional. Not everyone has problems but detox can sometimes be problematic and none of us know beforehand which way we're likely to go.
I think everyone needs support too - whether it's AA or some other recovery group, or counseling , or SR - recovery is about more than just managing physical symptoms.
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Me, too, sometimes. But when you think about it, the ability to conquer an addiction is a much more valuable life skill than being a social drinker.
Sister, I know all about that! I had that argument raging in my head for decades. It's almost all gone now, and it didn't take a doctor or meetings - it all came from within me; once I had the knowledge I needed. I acquired that knowledge over in the Secular Recovery forum. You might want to check it out.
Best of Luck!
Best of Luck!
Hi NotSoIvory. I'm glad you came back to give it another try. We all understand how difficult & confusing it is.
That was the hardest thing for me - to admit I could never drink socially. I regret so much wasting all that time trying to manage it. I don't know what I thought I was missing out on, because in the end all drinking brought me was misery. I think I clung to my early drinking days when I could still control it once in awhile - but those days were long gone, and never coming back. I'm glad you haven't given up on a sober life. You can do it.
That was the hardest thing for me - to admit I could never drink socially. I regret so much wasting all that time trying to manage it. I don't know what I thought I was missing out on, because in the end all drinking brought me was misery. I think I clung to my early drinking days when I could still control it once in awhile - but those days were long gone, and never coming back. I'm glad you haven't given up on a sober life. You can do it.
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