nmichalicek

Hi,
This is my first time ever attempting to talk about my mother. For 24 years I accepted her, loved her, supported her, and allowed her to use me as a verbal punching bag. I can no longer allow this however I am the bad guy for getting mad and upset, I am 37 married and have my own children, what she does to me is starting to affect me around my kids. The nearest meeting I found today is about an hour away. I'm so weak at saying the way it is to her. I want to say good-bye, Id rather not accept anything from her again. But then I feel guilty for maybe hurting her. I wrote her a poem last night because of the recent attacks she posts on Facebook. I want to give it to her, but again I am scared. UHG.

Dee74

Hi nmichalicek - welcome to SR

My advice, for what it's worth...if you're going to walk away, whether literally or figuratively ...then walk away...no emotive goodbyes, no poems, no explanations of how you feel...

I tried for years to get my parents to understand me, and for them to acknowledge things that had happened...but I know know they never will.

The way to peace and happiness for me was to accept that.
I can't change anyone else but I can certainly change myself

D

2granddaughters

Here is a website that I found very enlightening and healing. It's for daughters but you'll get the message.

Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

All the best.

Bob R

nmichalicek

Thank you I am looking at it, It will help for sure. Its hard to explain to my husband or others who do not live with something like this

1Andy

You are sort of lucky in a way, I have found myself in the same sort of prediciment but didn't indentify it until recently, I am 46, you've got a 9 year jump on me.

ML78

You dont need an emotional anchor around your neck. people will abuse you forever if you let them, unfortunately there are some people like this. The best thing to do is identify them early and cut them off. I hope you get through this, and move on happily.