NeedtoQuitnow35

i have a uncle and he's always offering me alcohol and he knows i cannot even smell it. show i distance my self from him?

Jeni26

Yes! I put a big distance between me and my alcoholic family when I quit!x

NeedtoQuitnow35

I think that will be the best thing for me too. It really hurt me to know that my uncle dont really care about me cause if he did, he would never offer knowing i have a drinking problem.

Valll

I agree with Jeni. My brother who is a recovering alcoholic (he has relapsed 4 times in 20 months which when you think that he has been drinking non stop for 20 years, is a vast improvement! and he hasn't had a drink now for 6 weeks)
anyway, he came to stay with me this weekend and the first thing he said to me is, "please carry on as normal, have your glass of wine at dinner and don't pamper me otherwise I will feel guilty".

I had water with every meal. Why on earth would I want to hold a glass of alcohol under his nose knowing what he is going through...but then I understand alcoholism a lot more than most thanks to the wonderful people and support here on SR.

Look after yourself and do whatever you have to do to stay safe.

least

I'd stay away from him, yes. If he's continually offering it he must not care about your well being. Keep your distance.

NeedtoQuitnow35

Thanks Valll and least those were some really inspiring words

escapist

Sounds like you have to look out for yourself. It sucks when your family and friends arent supportive.

SoberHappyHour

I'm sure he cares about you but I think a lot of drinkers prefer to drink with someone else. Therefore, he cares but he cares more about himself and getting what he wants which is a drinking partner. Don't go for it, and I think that if its too difficult for you to be in the room as he drinks the yes, keep your distance and when you're strong enough to be in the room then do it and make him feel like he can't break your mental strength.

Dee74

I had to break contact with a lot of people like that - no matter what their motives were, it was no good for me.

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NeedtoQuitnow35

thank you all for all the great advice and pick me ups. im feeling like you all are my family.

NeedtoQuitnow35

it feels so good to find a group that do not romance the addiction but is truly serious about their recovery

Zebra1275

Yes.

Womble76

Could you make it so that when / if you do see him it's in places where people generally don't drink? I asked my parents to stop offering me drinks saying I'd given up for a bit because they're pretty generous with pouring. It just made things easier.

NeedtoQuitnow35

Hey friends its another day sober. I may never get the support I need from my family without critiscism but i can say that I am happy with myself today. To all yall out there, keep up the good work.