Hopeful, sounds like we are on about the same time line! Good luck.

Thanks for the encouragement! This Wednesday will be one week! You??

Close behind. Friday will be one week for me (sounds so insignificant and such a huge accomplishment at the same time). You lead the way and I will follow hot on your heels, just don't let me catch up :-)

Awesome! Let's do this!

This is brilliant!! I am happy to read this!! You are doing so well!! You seem to have a nice and simple plan - don't drink.

I am proud of your husband too for not having the beer. Hopefully he'll understand that in your current, fragile state that just by the simple action of him not drinking around you will greatly help you.

Congrats on the great work!!!

Thanx! Yes, I was very thankful that my husband was onboard. His case of beer is almost gone, so I hope he doesn't buy anymore.

Glad you're still on track and enjoying the lack of hangovers (me too). Keep it up!

Oh and if you OH offers you wine again, I'd ask him not to offer again (ever)... Just my opinion.

Hopeful,

I can really relate to your story. I'm on day 8 now. Since I joined SR (in Dec) and started to curtail my drinking, I've been able to string together a sober week or two at a time without too much effort. But now I'm committed to stringing together a lifetime of sober days.

I'm going out of town with Hubby this week and it's gonna be tricky to not drink while at the hotel and going out to dinners. I'm so impressed that you did so well when faced with the same thing. Your are going to be my inspiration.

I know what you mean about the doing housework. I got in the habit of drinking a glass or two of wine when I would do the housework. It got to the point, where I felt I couldn't do the housework without drinking. When those thoughts cross my mind now, I just excuse myself from doing ANYTHING - and come here, or read about recovery, etc . . . I'd rather be sober with a dirty house then drunk with a clean house.

I hope your hubby stops drinking at home. That would be too hard for me, I think. If you find yourself overcome with the need to pour his beer down your throat - pour it down the drain instead. I'm sure your hubby will understand.

RaggedyMan, day number 6 and still dry :-) Looks like he hasn't bought any beer so far and he drank whatever was left lastnight while I was visiting my dad at Hospice. I think he got the message, but yes if he offers me wine again, I'm gona remind him of all the great (not!) times we shared with our fifth wheel, Merlot.
You keep up the good work too :-)

Milly4me-congrats on making it over the one-week hump! I know you will make it a lifetime. It will be a challenge this weekend, but you can do it! Just think about the morning after. Not having cottonmouth is a wonderful feeling ;-> I wish we can just enjoy a glass of wine with dinner or whatever, because that's romantic, but it does not stop there for me. A glass turns into an entire bottle. For our one-year anniversary, we got a hotel in the city, had plans to go dance the night away. We started drinking in the hotel room, and even though I only had maybe 2 glasses, had a pretty good buzz going. Next thing you know, we were arguing, and to make a long story short, we didn't stay at the hotel that night.
I can write a series of books about my life and how alcohol almost destroyed my life.
I was lol-ing when you said you just excuse yourself when those thoughts cross your mind! Good plan :-) All those triggers... Atleast for now, we gota do what we gota do, right?
Anyway, keep it up Milly4me!

I will be praying for you !!!

...and you get to wake with the BIG ONE WEEK tomorrow! Bigger than it sounds in fact!

One week today! I am so tempted to drink though :-(
Too many domestic problems right now. I'm so upset and shakey. Taking deep breaths to calm down. Good thing there is no alcohol in the house.

Sobriety will help you handle situations that used to baffle us. Great work with one week. It can be a roller coaster in the beginning so hang in there. I am sure you know that drinking will only make the domestic issues worse.

I read a couple of your earlier posts. Gosh I remember so many evenings that my wife and I planned to have a nice "date night" only to end up getting drunk and into a fight. I do not miss that one bit.

I know, and should be able to have that reminder that alcohol only destroys front and center of my mind. More than any of the other triggers; i.e. boredom and loneliness, problems with the OH would send me on a bender. I'm so glad and thankful that you responded so quickly and reminded me that I need to keep a clear head. If I can get away, I'm going to have an intense workout on my Crosstrainer. Thanks again!

Who is this crosstrainer person :c031:

I still have bad days and still have disagreements with my wife but I deal with it so much better. There are actual reasons not just drunken crap I made up. We go to bed with it settled if we disagree.

One other thing that helped me in early sobriety was to have a gratitude list. All the things I am thankful for that I still have and will get to keep by staying sober. I looked at it several times. I still have those things and more.

Good idea! Will get to it asap :-) I can think of atleast 10 things I'm thankful for just sitting here on the couch and looking at my baby girl...

Tough day today...dealing with so much right now. My dad's cancer, marital problems, finances. I came soooo close to picking up a bottle of wine, and I probably would have if my teenage son wasn't with me. I kept telling myself that if I take home the wine and take out that cork, it's all over for me. Tomorrow
I have plans to stay busy.Tonight so that I wouldn't get bored or stressed, I baked a pumpkin roll for everyone to have for breakfast. Gona TRY to wake up early and workout. I'm so glad I get to wake up to a hangover free morning!

The mornings have been so huge for me...
I know that having a beer would prolly feel really nice about now, but it's the not stopping at a beer that is what gets me. I have a pretty astounding track record that proves I can't just have one. I think I may even be undefeated.
I just have to think of how miserable it makes me feel, and just last Saturday--I had to hit the john at a bar to throw up--and then sat down like nothing happened and finished my (full) pint. Thinking about that tonight, I really can't believe I did that. Well, I did...and I'd more than likely do it again if I let myself down that road again.
I am enjoying restful sleep, and nice mornings too much.
Good on ya for making the right call! I'll bet those pumpkin rolls are going to taste even sweeter!

Yes the rolls were yummy, and yet another good thing about not drinking is that I didn't eat the entire thing, lol! I hope that by being on SR, you don't have to beat yourself up about the past (throwing up in the restroom) because most of us have been there, done that. What matters is we have to remember those bad experiences so that we can learn from them, and never repeat it for the rest of our lives. When I tried to quit in the past without a support system, I felt like the only person who struggled with this problem. That guilt and shame is one of the many reasons (not excuses) that I couldn't stop the insanity.
Hang in there and let's welcome another happy morning :-D