Bewilderment

I went to my first Alanon meeting. I went a little early, to ask the group leader some questions abt how they work. Obviously, I'm new to these things & want to follow whatever rules there are & what is or isn't appropriate.

She told me 'this isn't the place for discussing your personal situation or getting advice.'

Huh???? Did I interpret these meetings wrongly? Aren't they actually for (among other things) trying to get input from others and to understand what is going on with your A - SA ?

So I sat there the whole time & didn't say a word. I don't know if I will go back.

Coldfusion

What did the other people say at the meeting?

Do you want to share in that same way? It is not a place for discussing, and usually people don't comment on others' situations.

2granddaughters

Al-Anon has the same 12 Steps as AA (slight word change).

Al-Anons work on themselves the same as AAs work on themselves.

All the best.

Bob R

FeenixxRising

Sounds like you might want to try another meeting at another location (if possible). Also, is there an Al-Anon hotline that you could use to get questions answered?